Advice / Education

Lilly is a gorgeous curvy femme that self-identifies as a pansexual queer. Her blog is a cool mixture of toy reviews, advice, photos, real life experiences, and erotic fiction. The entries are well written, and usually center around sexuality and blogging. I especially recommend her "Sex Toy Care and Cleaning Guide", as it is particularly succinct and helpful. She has a very upfront disclosure on her site, which I personally appreciate, and she doesn't simply love all of the toys she reviews. I liked that, and I took her reviews a lot more seriously. Creative, savvy, and sexy! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2012-01-08
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Blogs / Journals - Sex, mainstream erotica

This is a blog by Master Michael Samadhi and his slave/wife Serafina. It is still relatively young, but I felt that the level of conversation and original pictures really warranted a review. The couple enjoys Tantra and BDSM, and they definitely communicate about their lives in a very real (and sometimes quite raw and vulnerable) way. They have BDSM and kink articles about things like Darlex and Hepatitis. Michael shares assignments that he has written for his partner. The review section is a breath of fresh air, since it deals with things like collars and EMT scissors. I didn't see any standard "sex toy" reviews, but loved reading over scene music recommendations and experiences with hemp rope suppliers. Here is a sample of the sort of thing you'll read from Michael: "If a slave is somebody who has been totally devalued, I'd not want to command them, I'd want to shelter and protect them until they felt valued and human. My style of domination isn't depersonalizing, in fact quite the opposite, it's expressed by continually pushing for growth, empowerment, and enlightenment within the rituals and devotions of submission." I don't know about you, but I find that pretty darn hot. A nice start to a thoughtful and interesting blog! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-12-22
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Couples, Blogs / Journals - Sex, D / S, Safer Sex Info, Sexuality Info, Tantra

Bebe St. Croix self-describes as a "sex coach" and offers advice about sex to those that write to her. This blog style advice/erotica site features articles on how women may be more sexy to men, how to give oral sex to a man, why men like mail order brides, and such. There are also a few pieces of erotic fiction about a character named "Victoria". The stories are of medium length and fit well within the idea of mainstream erotica. They are definitely worth a read! The advice and sex coaching services? Well, there is no information given about Ms. St. Croix's education or background as a coach. So, I find the whole idea highly suspect. The advice doled out on the site is often the propagation of hegemonic heterosexual roles as often spoon fed to us in western media. Wear the highest heels? Grow your hair long? Be submissive? Remember to swallow? All men want oral sex? This advice is sometimes dangerous (as in the case of promoting unsafe sexual practices), and is at best not particularly educational. Please understand that all of these types of sexual expression and preference are valid to think/feel/pursue in consensual relationships, but promoting them as educational materials distributed by a professional is not acceptable. An example? Even a paraprofessional counselor should be able to understand what is problematic about telling people that an intrinsic part of a person's gender identity is the acceptance of a certain type of sexual act. Our gender is not defined by the sex we must accept or enjoy. Period. So, I recommend this site to story hunters, but not so much for information seekers. - Vamp » More Info!

Date Reviewed: 2011-12-07
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, mainstream erotica, Sexuality Info

This site is still pretty young, but it looks promising! It is a webzine written by Katie, who is a self-described queer woman from the UK. She says that she started the site out of, "...[A] desire for more blogs based in the UK, discussing sexual politics and reviewing toys and events for 'grown-ups' which can be found on our fair isles, such that we don’t need to sell our limbs to pay for the shipping costs or air fares." The site discusses politics, gender, identity issues (including body image), and kink. There is a nifty DIY (do it yourself) kink area that explains how to make your own rubber flogger from bicycle inner tubes, and I'll enjoy seeing more projects added here in the future. There is also a review section that currently has a couple of toy, event, and movie reviews. I hope this place really picks up steam, as it looks like it could be really good with just a bit more content! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-10-26
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Other Web Review sites, Sexuality Info, webzines

The Sexperience website (from the Sex Education Show on Channel 4 in the UK) is a fabulous educational site based on shared personal experiences! You can look at the interactive Sexperience 1000 survey, which is the data from 1000 UK citizens who were asked about their sexual experiences and health. The graphics used to explain the data are brilliant, and allow for you to visually sort by things like gender or age. You can also decide to follow a specific responder, looking at all of their answers individually. The rest of the site has videos on topics such as orgasm, STIs, and pregnancy. The content is fairly pansexual, so if you search for videos about body confidence you'll get a mixture of gay and heterosexual responses. An excellent resource for folks wanting to hear personal stories about sexuality! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-09-14
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Safer Sex Info, Sexuality Info, Streaming Video, Uncategorizable

Skin Two started out in a cellar in Soho, London in 1983. It has grown through the years to become a legend of fetish fashion and style, and the organizer of one of the most famous fetish events in the world the "Skin Two Rubber Ball Weekend". This site is the online version of their magazine, and offers lots of free (fiction and nonfiction) writing as well as tons of art. There is also a forum that allows you to network with other readers and discuss things like clubs and BDSM. Some famous bloggers such as Patrick Califia can also be found here. There are plenty of links to places that sell their clothing line, movies, and give info about upcoming events as well. A lot of free content from a legend in the business! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-09-13
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, alternative / sci-fi erotica, BDSM Art, BDSM Fiction, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - Sex, Books / Zines, Latex / PVC / Rubber, Sexuality Info

One of my favorite sex toy stores is Babeland, so I was delighted to discover that a bunch of the mothers who work for the infamously sex positive and women-friendly boutique had gotten together to start a blog about love, sex, and parenting. There are about ten writers here at the moment, and you can search the entries by listed topics. The blog also covers in store events that are relevant to pregnant women (such as classes on sex during and after pregnancy). The blog is fairly new, but there is already quite a bit here. The owners of Babeland (Rachel Venning and Claire Cavanah) are both contributing authors. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-09-01
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Blogs / Journals - Sex, Safer Sex Info, Sexuality Info

Are you curious about swinging? Are you part of a couple that swings, and you've hit a snag? Do you wish you could talk to a couple of experienced swingers about it? Great! This site is a free advice and opinion blog written by Miranda and Aarron, a couple with a lot of experience that they'd love to share with others. The content is nicely organized, and there is a search function. These folks don't claim to be medical or psychological experts, but they are a couple who have navigated swinging together and found solutions to issues. I found the direct and honest answers here very refreshing, and enjoyed reading things from both of their perspectives. Well done! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-08-10
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Blogs / Journals - Couples, Sexuality Info

Respectful, loving, joyful, smart, charming, and sexy! This site is still extremely young, but I love the direction that it is going. I always think that the best porn is the stuff that I watch and then wish that I could participate in, and this site definitely struck me that way. The two stars are Maggie and Ned Mayhem, which you may have heard of before. Maggie self-identifies as a queer kinky switch that has worked with really cool folks like Two Knotty Boys and Kink.com. She has also been involved in a lot of sex positive work, such as HIV testing and counseling. Ned has worked with folks like Kink.com as well, and runs an an open source science project measuring physiological responses to arousal and orgasm. He is also a PhD candidate in experimental physics at UC Berkeley. This site is free to read and look over, and it acts as a transparent preview for the paid content. You can register here for free, and then purchase individual movies or photo sets (which typically run around $3). You can also decided to be a big spender (the better deal), and get the whole shebang for $8/month. At the moment, if you pay for all the content available there is a small handful of streaming and downloadable (mp4) movies that run about ten minutes long. There is also a picture gallery of Maggie that is available in high resolution and zipped. Mixed in with their own content, they do have blog entries about work that they are doing with other sites (most of which will allow you to purchase their particular movie or gallery separately). I wasn't totally wild about it being mixed in with their other content, but it was plainly labeled and nice to see where I could find more content with these stars if I wanted. In addition to the homemade porn showing things like strap-on sex and Ned using a vibrator on his cock while getting a handjob from Maggie, you'll also find the ultra cool Encyclopedia Mayhem. It includes tutorials on things like how to be a cis-gendered woman and pee standing up and how to construct a hitachi wand rope harness. There are also interviews, stories, behind the scenes info, event reports, and even really personal home video of vacations. I'm incredibly excited about this section of their site, because I felt that it was a bit like getting to know them. If you are looking for toy reviews that include demonstrations, then this site may do that soon. At the moment they only have one real review, but it is graphic and wonderful. There is a live show area that broadcasts using skinvideo cams, and they apparently announce live shows via twitter. There is no schedule posted. There are links to a forum (that is currently too new to have much content), and a free tumblr blog of photos and movies. Ned and Maggie say that they want to make, "...[P]orn that could get people off without perpetuating racism or homophobia – porn that shows the world that making sexy videos is not synonymous with exploitation." I think that they are managing that, and I can't wait to see what this place looks like in a year! An exciting new project, and well worth the time to check out. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-08-04
Cost: See Above Advertising Content: Medium (see above)
Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM / Fetish Video, Blogs / Journals - Couples, D / S, Downloadable Video, Female Bondage, Female Domination, Sex Positive Goddesses, Sexuality Info, Streaming Video

The fact that we haven't posted this review sooner is a testament to the size of the Jane's Guide queue. Sarah Sloane is one of the east coast's top BDSM, Sexuality, and Relationship educators. She has taught hundreds of classes, writes a "Dear Sarah" column, blogs for MyPleasure, is featured in SexIs Magazine, and is the Contributing Editor for Tristan Taormino's newsletter The Double T. This site is primarily a personal blog, but it also lists the classes that she currently teaches (along with a description of what to expect from each of them). There are also links to media interviews, podcasts, and some of her free online writing such as "10 Things You Didn't Know About the Prostate." If you aren't already familiar with Sarah, this is a great crash course. I think you'll particularly appreciate her materials if you are interested in polyamory and BDSM. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-08-02
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - Sex, D / S, Sado-masochism (S/M), Sex Positive Goddesses, Sexuality Info

This is a great little site for those interested in swinging, polyamory, open relationships, and such. There is a library of articles such as "Poly Living- Children and Living Arrangements for the Polyamorous" and "Nervous Newbies- Playing with Brand New Swingers." There is also a fair share of humor, advice, and fiction. One of the things that really makes this place shine, however, is the podcast. There are currently around 30 episodes available on various topics, and they are very well done. When I visited, I listened in on an interview with Tristan Taormino that was pretty nifty! There is a very small (and honest) review section, and a list of Kasidie's swinger parties as well. I liked the energy here, which seemed to really be a lot about fun (and not so much about politics). Definitely recommended, and 100% free! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-08-02
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Internet Radio Podcasts, Other Web Review sites, Sexuality Info

Dr. Ruth Neustifter (or "Dr. Ruthie") is a published author, presenter, activist, university instructor, and relationship coach. She holds a doctoral degree in Child & Family Development with specializations in Couples and Family Therapy and Qualitative Research. So, she really knows her stuff. This site consists of a blog that discusses various sexuality issues, such as "Pussy Cosmetics and Vagina Myths". She also posts video blogs like the highly instructional "How-To Video: Loving Your G-Spot". I found these videos to be very well done! They are educational without being overly technical or clinical. There are also some video reviews of products that are supplied by places like Babeland. Those reviews seemed pretty thorough, and I appreciated that she pointed out things like glycerin content and latex friendliness. There are some really nice free pdf files available in the resource section that deal with vibes, lubes, anal toys, fantasy development, and coaching. She also does relationship coaching consultations over the phone or skype, and runs a group for sex-positive professionals as well. A great resource for responsible sexual health and sensuality information! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-06-02
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Blogs / Journals - Sex, Other Web Review sites, Safer Sex Info, Sex Positive Goddesses, Sexuality Info, Streaming Video

If we had a "Sex Positive God" category, then this man would be in it! He holds a doctorate in Adult Sexuality Education, and is also certified as a Sexuality Educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists. As a trained sexologist he currently oversees all of the Good Vibrations sex education projects, gives tons of workshops, and offers personal consultations (at his physical location of San Francisco or over the phone). His website serves primarily as a blog in which he discusses human sexuality, and how it overlaps with other tricky bits of socially constructed experience such as race and gender. So, you won't see a bunch of remedial essays describing what a penis is or how to give a blow job. What you will get a lot of are great little gems like "STIs Don't Make You Dirty" and "Sexwork is to Trafficking as Sex is to Rape". If you are looking for something beyond how-to articles, then you will be immensely pleased by the level of academic discourse here. A wonderful resource, and a great read! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-05-15
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Blogs / Journals - Sex, Safer Sex Info, Sex Work Info, Sexuality Info

AlwaysArousedGirl reviewed this site back in 2009 when it was called Enemas.com and was under different ownership. She had this to say about it: "Enemas.com celebrates back-door cleaning out in a grand way... You'll see costumed young women and a wide array of implements and devices...On the site you'll also find a message board, personals,...and some helpful advice on getting started with enema play. One really nice thing about Enemas.com is that you don't have to take my word for what's offered. Go to the site and peek in on each and every update. All are available for preview, so you can see the costumes and equipment and read the summaries before you hand over a credit card." All of that remains true, but it is so much better now! The site is significantly less expensive, and there is a lot more content with better organization. Wizard of Ass Productions has taken over the place now, and they bring their own unique passion to it. There are currently well over 135 video clips (wmv format) and 5,700 photos here now, and they are all smoking hot and very high quality. This is not a site filled with bored looking folks with enema nozzles in their bum. You'll see lots of very adorable, fit, and young women taking real enemas and expelling them in a very sexually charged context. The enema gear is varied. You'll find balloon nozzles, flow indicators, colonic tubes, funnels, and a lot more. There are some exotic (and even potentially life threatening) enemas given here. You'll see women taking grape juice, milk, and even beer. The site owner is responsible about explaining the dangers of alcohol enemas, which I appreciated. Punishment, reward, medical, and sensual enemas are given on this site. The tone of domination is very respectful and firm, and for some reason that polite and demanding combination was a zillion times hotter for me than the usual attempt at gritty conversation. If you enjoy BDSM, there are a lot of elements of it here. Suspension, canes, vibrators, plastic wrap, bondage/enema chair, spankings, and roleplay are all over the place. There is also a dose of lesbian and hardcore sex. If I had to sum it up, I think that I would say it is about psychological and physical domination through liquid penetration. I think that this site will appeal to those that like to receive, as well as those that like to give. I know that I was on the edge of my seat watching this, and I wanted more. Edgy, respectful, and diabolical! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-04-27
Cost: $29.95/30 days recurring Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM / Fetish Video, D / S, Downloadable Video, Enemas / Watersports, Female Bondage, Sado-masochism (S/M)

This blog is written by Jonathan "Wyrd" Brazell, a lifestyle dominant and practitioner of Gor-inspired total power exchange. His writing makes it very clear that he is drawn to the concepts of integrity, honor, and respect. You'll find several years worth of writing here, as well as a library of downloadable pdf documents (BDSM safety, pervertables, playing with disabilities, slave positions, art and history of erotic bondage, and bondage 101). He also offers a couple of free non-adult programs that he designed, and I can't say that I've evaluated those for safety. So, take normal precautions. A passionate, complex, and intelligent blog. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-03-23
Cost: Free Advertising Content: None
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant

This site is for folks interested in cybersex (or for those who have always wondered what kind of conversations people have while cybering). It is the brainchild of a self-identified HIV positive woman named WildHoney, who found new freedom in cybersex after her diagnosis. She has a few brief essays on why and how people cyber, and what not to do while having virtual sex. An example of her advice is, "...[T]here is no such thing as honesty in a chat room. Ever. You need to go into the rooms knowing that up front." In addition to this material, she shares over 50 chat sessions on different topics (although most are heterosexual in nature). It was fascinating to read how those sessions unfolded verbatim, sort of like a form of intellectual voyeurism. She links to Chatropolis, just in case you are inspired to go try it yourself. There are also a few affiliate galleries of pictures, and some HIV info from the CDC. A charming little labor of love, and a titillating read that might inspire you to try cybering. My only caveat? Some of the links are blind, even though they are not intentionally misleading or problematic. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2010-11-07
Cost: Free Advertising Content: High - Blind link
Category Listings: Advice / Education, mainstream erotica, Safer Sex Info, Sexuality Info, Uncategorizable

Would you like to touch your lover (or yourself) in a more skillful way? Do you like to give intimate massages, but you haven't switched up your technique in awhile? I can almost guarantee that you will learn something new here! The Pleasure Mechanics Sexual Techniques Series is a download-to-own collection of original educational video guides designed by trained massage and body-based sex educators Charlotte Goodman-Smith and Christine Fawley. The guides cover fingering, handjobs, anal play for women, and prostate massage in a very thorough and respectful way. All the videos feature close up demonstrations of technique on lifelike replicas, which avoids any "pornography" feel. I know from personal experience that this series can be shared with folks that are usually very shy or embarrassed about sexual topics, since the tone and imagery feel very safe and inviting. All of the guides are available for immediate download after order, but may also be purchased through another site in the form of DVDs. In addition to the video guides, both educators offer sex coaching services which are described in detail on the site. They also have a really interesting blog and an articles section that includes free educational material that covers topics like Kegel exercises (for men and women), breathing for sexual enhancement, and preparation and hygiene for anal play. I can't possibly recommend this site enough, as I've used this series to improve my own sex life on several occasions. No matter how much you think you know, this site will give you a little bit more knowledge about touch. Educational, hot, and affordable video guides! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2010-10-16
Cost: Free Advertising Content: None
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Amateur / Indie Video / DVD, Blogs / Journals - Sex, Downloadable Video, Mainstream Video/DVD, Sex Positive Goddesses, Sexuality Info

I don't know Mr. Edge, but I think I love him! He has been writing about sex and intimacy steadily since 2006, and that is no mean feat. He describes himself as married to a lovely Mrs. Edge, and says that they have a (mostly) vanilla relationship. What is the sensual delight that gets this guy going? Male chastity and orgasm denial, and this is one of the best places I've ever found to read about this kink. The mainstream media often sees this practice as being anti-sex or emasculating, and this blog does a lovely job of showing what a myth that can be. Mr. Edge tells stories from his life, discusses media reports, reviews chastity devices, shares modifications to toys, writes scorching erotica, and talks about intimacy within a caring relationship. He is also funny as all get out, and publishes self-described "bad limericks". Here is an example: "Our inventive young sadist, Miss Jones / Was cursing and swearing in loud tones. / She’d bought X-ray glasses / To look at men’s asses, / But all she could see was their bones." Educational, romantic, hot, classy, and funny! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2010-10-16
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Sex, D / S, Male Bondage

If you've ever wanted to look dramatic and magical while having sex, it is hard to beat a toy that can make lightning spring from your tongue. Violet wands are a kind of electrostimulation toy that can give sensations from mild tingles to painful shock, and this store is one of the best sources for them that I've ever seen online. You don't know how to use one? No worries. This site actually has an extensive education section that explains just about everything you'll ever need to operate one in a safe, creative, and enjoyable manner. I was very impressed with the responsible and informative nature of the writing here. The customer service, contact, warranty, privacy, and other information were also clearly stated and easy to find. There are many more options for payment than I am used to finding on an adult toy store site, including a layaway plan. The products on the site include just about everything you'd ever need to play with these tools including full pre-built violet wand kits (from 7-40 pieces), rakes, combs, spirals, massaging electrodes, cautery/branding, probes, transport and storage options, and conductive toys. If you want to build your own kit, they guide you through that process as well. They accept orders from North America, Europe, Australia, and New Zealand. There are a lot of "extra mile" features to the customer service here, including 24/7 support and an amazing exchange program. There is even a better price policy, that helps to give you the best price there is on an item. I am extremely impressed! It has been a long time since I've felt like a kid reading through a Christmas catalogue, but this site gave me that feeling. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2010-10-13
Cost: Free Advertising Content: None
Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM Gear, Safer Sex Info, Sex Toys / Safer Sex Supplies

Felice Newman is a sex educator, Somatic Coach certified by the Strozzi Institute, member of AASECT (The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists), and author of "The Whole Lesbian Sex Book: A Passionate Guide for All of Us." This website gives a brief overview of what a somatic coach is, as well as what events and workshops Felice Newman will be giving. There is a wonderful article section with offerings such as "What is Healthy Sexuality?" and "How to Be a Great Lover." She also gives some recommendations for healing sexual trauma, and helping a partner heal from sexual trauma. I will openly admit that I went into this one biased. I am a HUGE fan of her writing, and I deeply respect her advice about human sexuality. I recommend taking a look at her resource section as well, since she has put together some real classics. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2010-10-08
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Sexuality Info