Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive

LSAM is a personal blog that is a mix, as I suppose most are, of blog challenges and writing prompts, erotic stories, and personal experience. This one has a very heavy D/s slant, as LSAM (she goes by that as a tag name) has been documenting first her desires about turning her marriage into one with a power exchange dynamic, and then later, the reality of it, as she and her husband, M, started to go there. She includes links to various articles on the subject of BDSM, some more general and some specific to the D/s aspect that she enjoys. The writing is very personable, I imagine after reading for awhile it'd start to feel like sitting down with a good friend for a chat - if that friend was kinky.

Date Reviewed: 2013-05-20
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Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive

Miss Catherine Gail describes her life in this way: "My days are currently filled with two incredible children, writing for business and pleasure, learning photography, professional counseling, ProDomming, as well as speaking with my Master half a world away with whom I share an – unusual – relationship." Her blog is a wonderful mixture of original erotica, shared correspondence with her slaves, original pictures, and deeply psychological and philosophical bits of introspection. One of my favorite moments in her blog is a description of why she sometimes feels the need to submit. It is an absolutely poetic entry that I will share a brief snippet of: "...There comes a point on sparse occasions that I can no longer stand the power I possess. It’s like the valve atop a pressure cooker; I don’t need to let off steam, I need to safely lower that which I recognise threatens the balance inside and out." Absolutely lovely! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2012-11-09
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Category Listings: alternative / sci-fi erotica, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Sex Work Info

Blacksilk is a 25-year-old linguist working for a small company in Cardiff, and she doesn't even make that "cunning linguist joke" in her bio. That scored points with me! She is a bisexual switch that leans heavily toward submission, and she speaks frankly about her sex life and relationships in her blog. There is also a smattering of erotic fiction, scene reports, and original artwork. I loved it when she shared her drawings, which often had lesbian BDSM themes. Like many bloggers, Blacksilk reviews sex toys as well. I loved the fact that she organized her reviews well and was clear to point out the ones that she hated. I'm always suspicious when bloggers love all of the toys. Blacksilk doesn't do that. There were also a lot of original photographs and videos of the toys, and that rocked! If you are looking for free amateur pictures, she has a whole section devoted to original photographs of herself. Smart, honest, and interesting! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2012-04-09
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This is a blog by Master Michael Samadhi and his slave/wife Serafina. It is still relatively young, but I felt that the level of conversation and original pictures really warranted a review. The couple enjoys Tantra and BDSM, and they definitely communicate about their lives in a very real (and sometimes quite raw and vulnerable) way. They have BDSM and kink articles about things like Darlex and Hepatitis. Michael shares assignments that he has written for his partner. The review section is a breath of fresh air, since it deals with things like collars and EMT scissors. I didn't see any standard "sex toy" reviews, but loved reading over scene music recommendations and experiences with hemp rope suppliers. Here is a sample of the sort of thing you'll read from Michael: "If a slave is somebody who has been totally devalued, I'd not want to command them, I'd want to shelter and protect them until they felt valued and human. My style of domination isn't depersonalizing, in fact quite the opposite, it's expressed by continually pushing for growth, empowerment, and enlightenment within the rituals and devotions of submission." I don't know about you, but I find that pretty darn hot. A nice start to a thoughtful and interesting blog! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-12-22
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Sadey Quinn is submissive to her Master, and also an author. This blog is a collection of personal entries about her life with her partner, scene reports, musings about writing, and erotic fiction. She has recently finished her first book of BDSM erotic fiction, and she has links to places where it may be purchased online. There is also an excerpt from the book on her site. A well designed and enjoyable blog! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-11-02
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Category Listings: alternative / sci-fi erotica, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Books / Zines, D / S, eBooks, Sado-masochism (S/M), Sexuality Info, Spanking

This blog started way back in October of 2008, and it has kept going strong! It chronicles the very personal and erotic journey of Thumper, a man who is devoted to his wife of 11 years and exceptionally turned on by male chastity. These blog entries discuss the physical, emotional, and intellectual sides of prolonged sexual frustration and management. He also discusses practical information like how to choose clothing to conceal chastity devices, and how to address hygiene concerns. I love the tone of this particular blog and want to share an excerpt: "This is the game we play, right? The 'oh god I want to so bad (but not really)' game. I mean, I really do do want to fuck her, but more than that, I want her to tell me I can’t. I want to feel the desire flame and burn in me. I want to feel that I have no control over my own sex. She knows it, I know it. We play the game. It’s pretty awesome, actually." I don't know about you, but that seems pretty darn hot to me! Thumper also writes helpful and thorough reviews of chastity devices including the CB-6000, Stealheart, Jail Bird, PA-5000 and more. Hot, honest, and intelligent! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-09-13
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Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, D / S, Female Domination

I'm not sure how much longer this blog is going to be updated, but it is definitely worth the read. Nell relates tales from her life (which includes a lot of insights and stories involving poly relationships, service submission, bondage, introspection, and love). She has a very interesting journey from a place of pain, hurt, and distrust in D/s relationships to a place of re-engagement in the D/s dynamic with the right person. There are occasional pictures showing things like rope marks and whips, but the majority of what you'll find here is original text. A very moving alternative romance. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-07-27
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Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive

This site features kink, porn, and politics by spanking performer and producer Pandora Blake. She has a thought provoking and titillating blog, shares fantasies, dishes about experiences in the industry, shares pics and video, gives play reports, and has a lot to say about the political times we live in. I found her to be a fascinating read, and an interesting human being. I think this blog will be especially interesting to folks that primarily enjoy discipline, dominance and submission, and spanking. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-07-22
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Category Listings: BDSM / Fetish Video, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Sex, Sex Work Info, Sexuality Info, Spanking

This blog is positively delightful, and a really interesting read! Here is a description of what they are attempting (and in my opinion succeeding) to build: "Gabe and Elizabeth want to create a sex documentary collection, an authentic representation of the complex sexuality of two unique people in relationship. You may find that our offerings differ from commercial porn in a number of ways. We look to document our own desires and actions, trusting that offering up our real life together will turn others on, and will provide a contrast to the commercialization of sex in our culture. We are body-positive — eager to celebrate the beauty in all bodies. We value communication, honesty, education and fun." I really enjoyed them, because they seem to be full of play and reverence when they discuss each other. Their writing is thought provoking, and manages to be original in a sea of rather similar "sex-positive" voices. They also produce original audio, video, and images that they share at no cost. A site full of love and sensuality! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-07-18
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Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Couples, Blogs / Journals - Sex

I absolutely love this story blog! Daisy Danger is a collection of stories that are from the writer's past. She does change these events a bit, however, and sprinkles in fiction (as well as a healthy dose of anonymity). Her writing style is very raw and honest. I really liked that! The collection of posts is sold as an ebook in pdf format, and can be purchased from several online stores. She also has an audio podcast of some of the entries, and she links to where they may be heard. There is an underlying humor here that I particularly appreciated, although that may simply be my own experience. I was beyond amused when reading entries like "I'm done with talk. I want action." I think that if you are prone to sexual tomfoolery, you may find yourself identifying with these scenarios and laughing a bit too. Incredibly sexy and well written. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-07-13
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This blog follows one woman's adventures in dating. Missy discusses the highs and lows of hooking up, which sometimes includes an element of BDSM. There are also some pieces of original fiction, nude pics, and sex toy reviews. Infidelity is sometimes discussed rather frankly here, so be prepared. Here is a sample of her writing: "i was reading about these parties where people hold each other...like a big pile of platonic puppies...i would like to take the platonic puppy pile one step further...a spoon party...a comforting pile of skin...hardons...fuzzy parts...soft skin...wetness...." The organization makes it a bit difficult to find specific types of posts, but there is a lot of passion here. An abstract portrait of lust, yearning, and exploration. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-06-29
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Molly is an attractive and mature submissive UK woman that loves to write and take pictures. The presentation of her journal and personal photos is very easy to navigate, and she writes in a very casual and easy to read style. There is over a year of writing here, most of which centers on her D/s relationship. Sweet, loving, and lots of images! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-04-27
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Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, D / S, Sado-masochism (S/M)

Iona and James are an adventurous, inventive, and exciting couple that blog about their relationship as a D/s couple in a poly relationship. Iona is slender and muscular, and often posts pictures of herself oiled up or involved in some kind of kink situation. James is far more camera shy, but contributes writing to the site. They share scene reports and opinions, as well as pictures of toys and personal fantasies. One distracting thing about this site is that they also post porn reports about Kink.com updates. I sometimes clicked on those before realizing what they were. Iona has put together her experiences in a book called, "Sapioslut: The Collected Adventures." She links to where it can be purchased. This is a really neat site with great energy and sexy pics! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-04-11
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Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Couples, D / S, Sado-masochism (S/M)

Fulani and Velvet Tripp are a maledom/femsub couple that both write erotica. I would not normally list a blog that is this new, but it also includes a lot of free stories by Fulani (as well as links to his work available through other sites). In addition to the fiction, they have a couple of really interesting and informative original articles. A nice author site that has the definite possibility of growing into a really lovely BDSM resource. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-01-24
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Category Listings: BDSM Fiction, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Couples, D / S, Sado-masochism (S/M)

I had a lot of fun with this blog! Kitty is a self described sex worker that discusses gender, work, politics, BDSM, and a lot more. She recently has discovered ageplay, and has posted very honestly about it. Here is a sample of her writing, "So my first ageplay party did not go very well. Honestly, I had a shitty time. I felt resentful of the parental role, cranky to be in little girl space without someone to take care of me, bored, jealous of the boy being changed and having a good time when I wasn't... it was just kind of awful." Personally, I really like the fact that she doesn't paint everything with sunshine and rainbows. Kitty shares original pictures, and her writing is thoughtful and interesting. Sexy, bright, and introspective. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-01-03
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Category Listings: Ageplay, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Sex

I'll admit that I went into this review with a bit of a bias. Zille Defeu has been a figure in the adult industry for quite a few years, and I've always been partial to her projects (such as Darkplay.net). I don't know her, but if I had some dream dinner party she'd be on the invite list. This blog deals with fetish and kink (with a real emphasis on spanking). She writes about her life and her discipline based relationship in a very realistic and thorough fashion, and she illustrates the blog with video clips and images from her various adult shoots. She also has a section devoted to original erotica. Here is a sample of her writing: "Spanking hurts. It’s why humans have used it as punishment for probably as long as we’ve been living in social groupings together. It doesn’t necessarily follow that just because you are turned on by the idea, you have to love all the sensations/aspects of it...But that is part of the thrill. Us humans are wired really eccentrically, and those things that helped us to survive attacks from cave bears and that tribe across the river now give us the strangest of cravings and urges. The thrill of fear and the rush from pain being the ones we’re talking about now." In addition to the original writing, you'll find links to her other work and some of her favorite blogs. A really interesting read (with lots of pics and movies as well)! This is a must see for those into English school girl spanking. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2010-11-07
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Category Listings: Ageplay, alternative / sci-fi erotica, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, D / S, Sado-masochism (S/M), Sexuality Info, Spanking

I don't know Mr. Edge, but I think I love him! He has been writing about sex and intimacy steadily since 2006, and that is no mean feat. He describes himself as married to a lovely Mrs. Edge, and says that they have a (mostly) vanilla relationship. What is the sensual delight that gets this guy going? Male chastity and orgasm denial, and this is one of the best places I've ever found to read about this kink. The mainstream media often sees this practice as being anti-sex or emasculating, and this blog does a lovely job of showing what a myth that can be. Mr. Edge tells stories from his life, discusses media reports, reviews chastity devices, shares modifications to toys, writes scorching erotica, and talks about intimacy within a caring relationship. He is also funny as all get out, and publishes self-described "bad limericks". Here is an example: "Our inventive young sadist, Miss Jones / Was cursing and swearing in loud tones. / She’d bought X-ray glasses / To look at men’s asses, / But all she could see was their bones." Educational, romantic, hot, classy, and funny! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2010-10-16
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Category Listings: Advice / Education, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Sex, D / S, Male Bondage

This blog goes all the way back to 2006, and is still very frequently updated. Sadly, I couldn't find an actual "about" page, but it doesn't take much diving in to figure out that it focuses primarily on male submission fantasies, forced feminization, a bit of age play, and so on. The author categorizes posts quite well (there are a few switch posts in there too) and writes quite nicely. A mix of steamy fiction and real life emotion, I definitely enjoyed the visit and the peek into a different world. The only thing I didn't like? The blog navigation is way down at the bottom of the sidebar, below links to other sites and ads. I want to read YOUR content, quit trying so hard to send me away! :) - Jane

Date Reviewed: 2010-02-25

Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive

Take a moment and imagine a leather Facebook or Myspace, and then imagine it being run by and for kinky folks. That is exactly what Fetlife is! It is the coolest new community site out there for pervs, and it is absolutely 100% free. I had been hearing the buzz about this new spot on the web from a few of my lifestyle friends, and I finally decided to go set up an account and take a look myself. Many years ago I had been on other sites that promised community and allowed free communication, but since those sites have sold to other companies their soul has left the building and communication costs money. It is also communication that is no longer under the nurturing ownership of perverts with a personal interest in our tribe. I'd lost interest, and so had most of my friends. I was hoping that this site could be some of what I was missing on the old ones. Wow, I wasn't disappointed! I immediately ran into some of my old friends, and then ran off to recruit new ones. It is easy to sign up. Once you have, then you set up a profile. You can add pics to it, and you'll never run into that "you have to have such and such membership" to view pics or show them to others. There are social groups here with ongoing forum conversations, so you can sign up for topics that interest you (or create your own groups). There is a mail system that acts like a personal bulletin board for private conversations, so you don't lose track of what has been said to anyone. You can post writing, see what your friends are doing, and a lot more. A lot of talented pervs are posting writing and engaging in conversation here. I've met a lot of new friends. There is a small amount of advertising, but it is done really tastefully and never gets in the way. You can write to the folks that run the site, and they will actually write you back. I've been in love with this place and raving about it for the last several weeks. This is one of the few sites that didn't ask for review. I sought out the owner and asked him if I could post one. It is that good. I feel like I'm giving you guys an early Christmas gift. Go check it out! This is the next big kinky community site! They are going to be huge, and they will stay huge as long as they keep the spirit that they have now. - Vamp » More Info!

Date Reviewed: 2009-11-05
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Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Couples, Blogs / Journals - Sex, GBLT Resources, Personal Ads, Sexuality Info, Uncategorizable

You know you're in for a witty treat of a writer when there is a line that involves the term "Jacks-off Pollock." It only gets better from there. Mollena is the Perverted Negress, and her blog is a delightful mix of news, the occasional review of a sex toy/sexuality item, pictures of her lovely self, and thoughts about sex, BDSM, and more. Also on her site are a great blogroll, a biography, an attention whoring alert level key, and a way to contact her. Updated almost daily, this site seems to be filled with much amusement, deep thoughts, wit, and sexy pictures; everything you'd want and expect from a kinky sex blog. - EssinEm

Date Reviewed: 2009-01-29
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Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive