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So let me get this straight. WealthyBDSMDating.com attempts to make love matches between kinksters who are also rich? Is this possible? Let's check it out and see. 255 men and 77 women currently have memberships on the site, which certainly doesn't seem like a very large pool. There's no way to search a specific location; this would be a very useful feature for folks who are traveling or preparing to move. The "BDSM" categories also leave a lot to be desired. Right now the choices are gender (male or female only) and type of relationship (dom/master or sub/slave). This doesn't give serious kinksters much to go on, you know what I'm saying? There's a place on the profile to list a salary, but I wouldn't give much credence to this information. Perhaps in time WealthyBDSMDating.com will attract a following, but right now I'd suggest looking for a more active site for your rich and kinky dating needs. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-06-30
Cost: free for now Advertising Content: moderate
Category Listings: Personal Ads

With a membership of some 1200 members, SexSpace.us offers free dating profiles to folks around the world. Upload photos and videos, participate in forums, post blog entries, and list upcoming adult events once you create a profile, a process which takes about ten minutes. Right now the forums and blogs are pretty dead. I found some disappointingly sketchy information in SexSpace's articles. For example, the authors suggest that to remove any taste, condoms can be washed with soap and water and then re-rolled for later use. (Note: Please don't do this unless you'd like to become a parent in nine months.) They also claim that "Once clean, licking this area of the body [ie, the anus] is virtually no different then licking any other," which may be true in terms of technique but is definitely not true in terms of disease prevention. Standard membership allows you to view only a small number of profiles per day. If that's not enough, you'll need to upgrade at a cost of $14.95 per year. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-04-15
Cost: free standard membership Advertising Content: moderate
Category Listings: Personal Ads

After having spent the better part of an hour making a profile and hunting around on BidBuyDate.com, I'm still a little unclear about how things work. Part of that might be because the FAQ link is buried at the bottom of the page in tiny print. The fact that it's extraordinarily unclear also didn't help matters. In any case, the premise seems to be that you can set a price on the pleasure of a date with your bad self. Choose which bidder wins the honors, or else let the highest bidder win automatically. Once the date is complete, notify the site and earn yourself half the winning fee. The other half, naturally, goes to the webmaster. If buying and selling dates isn't your thing, use the site like any other dating site. In theory you should be able to search based on various characteristics; when I visited the search function alternated between slow and completely broken. A chat function is listed as "coming soon." Given the wonky functionality and the sketchy nature of bidding for a date, this site would not be my first choice for finding new partners. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-04-10
Cost: free for basic accounts Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Personal Ads

LoveIsTheBug.com is a UK-based dating site which offers the free creation of profiles aimed toward people who are already in relationships. Interested parties can sign up without a credit card, then post pictures and fill in typical profile information. I signed up for a free account then searched for members in my large Midwestern state. Unfortunately I found only a very small handful, none of whom had been on the site in recent weeks. I had better luck when I searched for members in the United Kingdom. If you need more than the basic free membership, LoveIsTheBug.com offers two premium levels, each with more viewing and search options. Prices range from 5.95GPB for a single month at the lower premium level up to 85.11GBP for a year at the upper premium level. LoveIsTheBug.com has some interesting features, but the current lack of USA members means that you'll likely have a hard time finding compatible partners in your local area. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-02-25
Cost: basic membership is free Advertising Content: moderate, some popups
Category Listings: Personal Ads

Couples.net.au is an Australian based site where couples (from all over the world) who enjoy the swinging lifestyle can find a friendly online community. The site is pretty busy and eclectic; almost distractingly so, in terms of design. But, once you register as a member, you have access to neat stuff like photo galleries, member blogs, and areas where you can chat with other members. One of the things I really liked about this site was how certain terms are hotlinked with definitions, this makes it really easy to pick up the lingo if you're new to the scene. - Shay

Date Reviewed: 2009-02-16
Cost: free Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Personal Ads

RacialSwingers.com promises "real adult" personals for couples who want to meet up with other interracial couples. The site boasts only about 400 profiles from the entire United States right now, which means that you may have a tough time finding someone in your geographical region. Chances are even worse if you're looking for a single female. There seem to be fewer than 100 female-only profiles right now. Some features, such as the chat function, are available only to paid members. Standard accounts are free, while premium accounts start at $12.00 a month. Try the budget-friendly yearlong option for only $24.00. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-01-29
Cost: free for standard, $12.00/month premiumi Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Personal Ads

Most swingers dating sites are very basic with few frills. While this one certainly wouldn't be considered high tech, it is definitely riding the wave of internet technology; it has more advanced search functions, and more members than most swingers sites I've been to in the past. On the other hand, it doesn't have any free memberships (although being a member is only $2.99/month, which is in fact cheaper than any other pay dating site I've ever seen). It has a blogging section, but there are only maybe 10 posts from the last month, so I wouldn't say it is this site's strong suit. Lots of members, and you can add them, email them, etc. One couple's profile pointed out that you only have three options; couple, single female or single male, and that is hard for poly relationships, as well as individuals who don't identify as male or female. The event calendar is up to date, and has a fair number of events on it, which is always nice to see. All in all, a simple but pretty swingers dating site; nothing more, nothing less. - EssinEm

Date Reviewed: 2009-01-12
Cost: $2.99/month, recurring Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Personal Ads

SwingersUnderground.com is a newish site devoted to bringing together folks interested in the swinging lifestyle. As is the case with many other dating sites, you must create a profile before you can browse. With this site though you also need to pay a small membership fee: two month recurring runs under $6, or choose an entire year for less than $20. I'm sorry to say that this site is currently a complete disaster. I searched my geographic area (of well over 500,000 people) and found only a small handful of profiles, most of which were not fully filled out. Even the folks who are typically the most popular on a swing site (single females, natch), had only a few views of their profiles. The profiles don't really have enough room in them for users to fill out pertinent information and all the images I saw were disappointingly small. New information shows up in pop-up windows, which is super-annoying. To make matters worse, the graphics are truly dreadful and there are ads everywhere. If you decide to give SwingersUnderground.com a shot, you can buy new pals a drink to flirt, send emails, post to the group blog and list local swing events. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2008-12-17
Cost: $5.98/2 months recurring Advertising Content: high
Category Listings: Personal Ads

Take a moment and imagine a leather Facebook or Myspace, and then imagine it being run by and for kinky folks. That is exactly what Fetlife is! It is the coolest new community site out there for pervs, and it is absolutely 100% free. I had been hearing the buzz about this new spot on the web from a few of my lifestyle friends, and I finally decided to go set up an account and take a look myself. Many years ago I had been on other sites that promised community and allowed free communication, but since those sites have sold to other companies their soul has left the building and communication costs money. It is also communication that is no longer under the nurturing ownership of perverts with a personal interest in our tribe. I'd lost interest, and so had most of my friends. I was hoping that this site could be some of what I was missing on the old ones. Wow, I wasn't disappointed! I immediately ran into some of my old friends, and then ran off to recruit new ones. It is easy to sign up. Once you have, then you set up a profile. You can add pics to it, and you'll never run into that "you have to have such and such membership" to view pics or show them to others. There are social groups here with ongoing forum conversations, so you can sign up for topics that interest you (or create your own groups). There is a mail system that acts like a personal bulletin board for private conversations, so you don't lose track of what has been said to anyone. You can post writing, see what your friends are doing, and a lot more. A lot of talented pervs are posting writing and engaging in conversation here. I've met a lot of new friends. There is a small amount of advertising, but it is done really tastefully and never gets in the way. You can write to the folks that run the site, and they will actually write you back. I've been in love with this place and raving about it for the last several weeks. This is one of the few sites that didn't ask for review. I sought out the owner and asked him if I could post one. It is that good. I feel like I'm giving you guys an early Christmas gift. Go check it out! This is the next big kinky community site! They are going to be huge, and they will stay huge as long as they keep the spirit that they have now. - Vamp » More Info!

Date Reviewed: 2008-11-05
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Couples, Blogs / Journals - Sex, GBLT Resources, Personal Ads, Sexuality Info, Uncategorizable

I'll admit that this takes me slightly out of my element, as I have no experience as a swinger. I'm more of a leatherfolk person. So, I looked at this site through beginner's eyes. You can sign up for a free 7 day trial membership that will let you look around and get familiar with the site (without supplying a credit card). It is a pretty painless procedure in which you create a username and supply an email address. They will give you the opportunity to create a profile at that time, but you can skip that if you just want to look around. Profiles are for couples, women, and men. You can designate what sort of "swap" arrangement you are interested in, and whether or not you plan on being in the same room as your partner during the experience. The site has a list of "validated" members who have been reviewed by other members of the site. There are special interest communities, party listings, forums, Q&A areas, a swinger's dictionary, an IM feature, a lively chat area, and more. I went in and spoke to the members, and they seemed very happy with the service. Customer service info is easy to find, and it includes a help desk number. I tried to write an email as a trial member, and I had no problem sending it. It looks like a nice service! If you are at all interested in the swinging lifestyle, I suggest you at least give the trial a chance. It will let you look around without making any kind of commitment, and that validation process seems very popular with the members. Be sure to check out the blogs, I found those to be really interesting! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2008-07-30
Cost: $19.95/month recurring Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: International Sites, Personal Ads

This is another one of those generic personals sites that offers a free membership. Once you are inside, you'll realize that you can't do much of anything without a subscription. The profiles have the usual vanilla info, and they can also have pics and such. If you are a paid member you can send and reply to messages whenever you want, see your admirers, keep a buddy list, use advanced searches, and IM. I searched for US females 18-35 with photos, and came up with slightly over 10,000 results. When I checked the profiles, many seemed geared toward sex exclusively and a bit "fake". It set off my escort alarm system, but maybe I'm getting cynical in my old age. I didn't find any helpful information about membership privileges at different levels before joining, and the sign up is really a blind experience. I wasn't impressed. I am not going to give a "quality" rating to any personals sites with that kind of blind sign up anymore, they are just too annoying. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2008-07-07
Cost: Free or $14.95/month recurring
Category Listings: Personal Ads

This is an excellent swinger lifestyle site! The best way to appreciate what they have to offer is to check out their extremely accurate "Quick Tour". Basically the site offers scene and party information and reviews, instant messaging of other members, anonymous texting (exclusive to this site), photo contests, advice columns, forums, and searchable profiles of thousands of members. You can view profiles based on distance of the person from you, picture availability, current rating, age, or keywords. There is also an added bonus of the "100% Real Seal". The "Real Seal" means that the people have been verified as actual people in the lifestyle rather than just picture collectors or fakes. The customer service and basic faq information on this site are explicit and helpful. The entire service is well put together. There is a free 7 day trial membership, and an "exclusive membership" that is $24.95/ month recurring. There are lots of options about payment (monthly, 3month, yearly, nonrecurring). This is one of the best organized sites I've seen in this genre. Excellent and lots of members! If you are a heterosexual or bi-female swinger I think this is one of the best spots on the net to hook up. » More Info!

Date Reviewed: 2008-06-26
Cost: 7 Day Free Trial, $24.95/mo (term disc) Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Couples, Blogs / Journals - Sex, Personal Ads, Regional Guide

Out of the sites I've reviewed so far only two have gotten me hot and bothered, and World Wide Wives is one of them. World Wide Wives is a personal networking site that has a huge display of user submitted photos and videos. The photos and videos vary in quality which is pretty standard for amateur submission sites, but they are fun to watch when you know that the folks in them are having fun and getting off. The personals section of the site is quite well done. Members are able to search for others based on similar interests and sexual compatibility. This site is a must see for anyone interested in viewing, and potentially meeting, beautiful wives across the world. - Wolfe » More Info!

Date Reviewed: 2007-11-20
Cost: $20/month Advertising Content: medium
Category Listings: amateur compilations, Downloadable Video, Personal Ads

Dirty David is a site where singles and couples all over the world can get together for sexual encounters. The site has been in operation since 1999 and has over a million members. New users can create an account for free and will some basic access to the site. Users can search for couples, men, women, groups, as well as TV/TS individuals, in whichever country you chose. With a paid membership users can look for same sex couples and even search by breast/cock size and drinking/smoking habits. Search results turn up a listing of individuals with their screen name, age(s), thumbnail image(s), and location. You can click their name to learn more about them: how much body hair they have, if they practice safe sex, etc. But apparently if you want a close look at their pictures you have to buy a membership. One thing that I thought was kinda cool about this site was that users can not only upload the standard profile images, but video and audio clips as well. -Shay

Date Reviewed: 2007-11-14
Cost: free, $7.49 - $19.99 /mo Advertising Content: medium
Category Listings: International Sites, Personal Ads, Veteran Sites

Dogging refers to the practice of watching couples engage in sexual activities in semi-public places such as parked cars. Dogging.co.uk serves as a place for British folk keen on enjoying dogging (or any other sexy activities, in fact) to hook up with willing partners. The site allows profiles and pictures to be posted absolutely for free, with no payments ever needed to read emails or exchange contact information. Yep, it's all free. The site owner promises to remove any "fake" profiles and never to post inflated statistics. Unlike some other hookup sites, Dogging.co.uk is very plain. There are no bells and whistles. But it's *free*, and do you really need the bells and whistles? If you are looking to get naughty in the UK, give it a look. Who knows what fun you'll find. - AAG

Date Reviewed: 2007-10-25
Cost: free Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Personal Ads

Love Voodoo is an alternative lifestyle dating site for swingers and polyamorous couples in the Unites Stated and Canada. People of all genders and sexualities are welcome here, so it is got a much broader scope than a typical lifestyle site. In addition to the personals, Love Voodoo holds monthly get togethers for it's members in the Ft Lauderdale, FL, area. They also list other lifestyle clubs, and events, across the United States. Site members can create their own blogs, contribute erotic stories, and have various other methods of networking with other site members. Their member search feature is quite good; members can search by username, gender, marital status, state, city, gender orientation, and amyriad of other details. Love Voodoo is also is working on a chat feature, which they tell me should be active very soon. The site is very well done and is easy to navigate. Great site! - Wolfe

Date Reviewed: 2007-10-11
Cost: $13.95/month recurring Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Personal Ads

PlayfulBent.com is a site with an interesting premise: Friendly adults can create free profiles, then "flirt" with other like-minded adults. Members can create their own blogs, large image galleries, and chat groups. The site accepts members from around the world, but at the moment there seem to be a heavy concentration of users from the Australia/New Zealand areas. One cool feature of the site is that as you interact more with another user, you'll earn a higher score with that person, so that the two of you will be able to take advantage of even more functions of the site. The site also allows members to submit dares to other members; the dares range from things like very mild private nudity to wild and crazy public high jinks. An fun alternative to the standard adult dating sites. - AAG

Date Reviewed: 2007-10-03
Cost: free Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: amateur compilations, art / digital art, Personal Ads, webzines

Cottaging is a UK slang term that refers to the practice of men looking for same-sex partners in public restrooms. Currently that practice might be frowned upon, but never fear! Sites like Cottaging.co.uk are there to help. Cottaging.co.uk allows men to post bare-bones profiles stating their characteristics and what they are looking for in a partner. This is not a fancy site...but it is completely free. You can search without registering, but if you'd like to see photos that members have posted, you'll have to sign up. If you are so inclined, you can also chat and post on discussion boards. The site boasts some 11,000 members and hey, it's free. What have you got to lose? - AAG

Date Reviewed: 2007-09-26
Cost: free Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Personal Ads

FetishMeeting.com seems like a great idea. It's meant to be a totally free hookup site for those who want a certain amount of kink in their lives. Once you register (it's free, remember!) you can specify your favorite fetish and what type of person you are seeking. Sounds wonderful, but there's one problem. As of this writing, there are but 20 registered users. Perhaps after FetishMeeting.com has had a while to grow, it will be a marvel. At the moment though, you will be very lucky to find a parter through this site who shares your fetish--and your time zone. - AAG

Date Reviewed: 2007-06-28
Cost: free Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Personal Ads

If you've never heard of Adult Friendfinder, I'd be surprised. One of the original adult dating sites, and probably one of the largest, they regularly have tens of thousands of users online at any given time. The site has expanded to include weblogs for their users - you can browse these without even registering for a free account, though they are truly a mixed bag. I found some real blogs, sometimes people creating blogs just to make a single post bitching about something. You can also browse the listings without registering, though if you want to look at a full profile you have to register for a free membership. Once you've registered free, you can see all the various pay options to get even more capabilities. One of the complaints I always hear about this particular site is the vast number of "professionals" who put up profiles. I will say that there are lots of those on any personal ad site that focuses on sex. There are things you can do to up your odds of real responses from real people, including having a photo in your profile (men, a tip here: women like photos of your FACE as well as your cock. Yes, even if you're well endowed. Honest.) Anyhow, it's a huge database of members, looking for everything from phone sex to adult chat to real-life encounters. - Jane

Date Reviewed: 2007-05-25
Cost: Free, up to $69.95 for Gold. Advertising Content: Lowish
Category Listings: Personal Ads