Sexuality Info

Christina Cicchelli is one busy woman. She blogs, writes for Betty Dodson's website about fetishes, acts in erotic movies and used to work as a fetish coach both in person and on the telephone. Wow, it makes me exhausted just to think about all that. You'll find links to all her work on ChristinaCicchelli.com, but I've got to say that it's not particularly well organized. I really had to search around to understand the full scope of her work. A complete overhaul of how her information is presented could help someone hoping to hire her in any capacity to understand the unique and varied qualifications she's got. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2010-03-11
Cost: free Advertising Content: moderate
Category Listings: Sex Work Info, Sexuality Info

While it would be nice to attend weekend-long in-person training seminars about all the fun sexy stuff we'd like to learn, life makes such pursuits very difficult for most of us. Family, work, travel arrangements and money often stand in the way, but with access to a site like KinkAcademy.com anyone can gain kinky knowledge from the comfort of a favorite armchair. The site offers grown-up sex-ed covering the basics (such as putting on a condom) all the way to the advanced (medical play, for example). In reading through their list of potential topics I had to stop and look things up -- and I'd like to think that I've got a pretty good idea of most of the kinky stuff people do. Not all of those topics are covered by the videos currently online, but more are being added all the time. Right now there's an excellent selection of topics presented by sexuality educators, professional sex workers and others who have extensive experience in their subject areas. I really liked the comfortable style employed by the presenters. It felt like meeting a close friend for coffee and conversation. Safety aspects of the riskier activities (such as fire play and anallingus) are thoroughly covered. KinkAcademy.com serves as a great resource for folks too far away from -- or too shy to attend -- in-person sex-ed events. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2010-02-06
Cost: $9.95 / 30 days Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Safer Sex Info, Sexuality Info, Streaming Video

Sequoia Redd is into sex magic, eco-activism, and is a sex worker of many sorts to boot. What do you get when you combine all those things and a witty mind? Why, Sequoia's blog of course. A combo of naked pictures, political conversations, introspective video, amusing tidbits and deep thoughts make this blog appeal to sex-positive folk, sex worker activists and clients alike. Her writing is as sexy as she is, and she IS sexy. With a natural look that is almost impossible to find today, she is a goddess of the earth with deep thoughts about human rights, equality, and sexual fantasies...all in one place. She posts fairly regularly, so you can get your Sequoia fix on a regular basis. Her site is a great asset to many communities and a worthwhile read.

Date Reviewed: 2010-01-27
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low (banners)
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex, Sex Work Info, Sexuality Info

Freelance writer Adrie Santos of AdrieSantos.com can be hired to produce copy, SEO content, and erotica for your website. She'll also write you a personalized erotic tale for your partner as a holiday, birthday or Valentine's Day gift. Maybe she's so busy working for others to concentrate on her own site, because it is frankly a bit of a mess. Links to examples of her work are hard to find and her blog is very infrequently undated. There's no information about her rates though she does include an email address to which you can write for more information. Santos maintains an extensive list in her sidebar of all the places her writing has been published, but I'm baffled by the fact that the tiny screenshots and book images are not linked to anything. Perhaps there's a very good reason for this, but I can't fathom why Santos doesn't encourage her readers to click away and purchase (or read online) the pieces she's written. Finally, the site's top entry refers to all the things Santos *won't* do for hire, such as give lap dances or engage in sex-chat. Clearly she's had some bad experiences in being propositioned by clueless internet folks (who hasn't, really?) but I found it off-putting to read this as my introduction to her work. Adrie Santos, I bet your freelance writing work is top-notch, but I wish it had been easier to find examples of it on your site. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-12-04
Cost: free Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: mainstream erotica, Sexuality Info

You know it's just not going to work when one partner wants hot candle wax dripping on their flesh during sex and the other worries about hot candle wax dripping on the furniture. Wouldn't it be nice to know these sorts of things before the clothes came off? iTantric.com helps couples open up dialogue about sexual issues by means of simple quizzes. Each partner creates an account and answers as many questions as is comfortable. When the time is right, partners can share access codes (which are different from passwords) and see their answers side by side. Questions range from very mild to fetish oriented. References are pretty heavily skewed to heterosexual couples. For example, double-penetration is referred to only as sex with two men. There's no mention of the possibility that a woman could be penetrated by toys or fingers. "Ejaculation" references semen only, not female secretions. Also, I found the possible responses difficult to use. I had to keep looking at the key to remember the difference between "willing" and "maybe" or "always" and "yes." Nevertheless, a mostly-vanilla heterosexual couple should find enjoyment and education out of comparing answers. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-11-27
Cost: free Advertising Content: nil
Category Listings: Sexuality Info

Take a moment and imagine a leather Facebook or Myspace, and then imagine it being run by and for kinky folks. That is exactly what Fetlife is! It is the coolest new community site out there for pervs, and it is absolutely 100% free. I had been hearing the buzz about this new spot on the web from a few of my lifestyle friends, and I finally decided to go set up an account and take a look myself. Many years ago I had been on other sites that promised community and allowed free communication, but since those sites have sold to other companies their soul has left the building and communication costs money. It is also communication that is no longer under the nurturing ownership of perverts with a personal interest in our tribe. I'd lost interest, and so had most of my friends. I was hoping that this site could be some of what I was missing on the old ones. Wow, I wasn't disappointed! I immediately ran into some of my old friends, and then ran off to recruit new ones. It is easy to sign up. Once you have, then you set up a profile. You can add pics to it, and you'll never run into that "you have to have such and such membership" to view pics or show them to others. There are social groups here with ongoing forum conversations, so you can sign up for topics that interest you (or create your own groups). There is a mail system that acts like a personal bulletin board for private conversations, so you don't lose track of what has been said to anyone. You can post writing, see what your friends are doing, and a lot more. A lot of talented pervs are posting writing and engaging in conversation here. I've met a lot of new friends. There is a small amount of advertising, but it is done really tastefully and never gets in the way. You can write to the folks that run the site, and they will actually write you back. I've been in love with this place and raving about it for the last several weeks. This is one of the few sites that didn't ask for review. I sought out the owner and asked him if I could post one. It is that good. I feel like I'm giving you guys an early Christmas gift. Go check it out! This is the next big kinky community site! They are going to be huge, and they will stay huge as long as they keep the spirit that they have now. - Vamp » More Info!

Date Reviewed: 2009-11-05
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Couples, Blogs / Journals - Sex, GBLT Resources, Personal Ads, Sexuality Info, Uncategorizable

LetsTalkDirty.org hosts an extensive, active forum devoted to all kinds of dirty talk. From vanilla fantasies to strictly taboo topics, if you can dream it up (and it's not illegal, inflammatory or otherwise irritating), you can discuss it here. Forum sites are often either dead or full of so much flaming that the original topics get forgotten. LetsTalkDirty seems to have moderators and participants active enough that dozens of topics were civilly being discussed when I visited. Rules are strictly enforced and clear consequences are set forth for those who step out of line. Images and videos can be shared in the forums; these also are strictly monitored. One drawback of the LetsTalkDirty is the huge amount of advertising present. The webmaster seems to own several niche porn sites, advertisements for which users must scroll past to get to the content on every page. Join the site if you're looking for a good place to discuss the fantasies you just can't mention to your boss. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-09-18
Cost: free Advertising Content: very high
Category Listings: Sexuality Info

Aphrodisiology.com lists just about everything you'd ever want to know about substances which claim to stimulate the sex drive. The webmaster clearly has spent long arduous hours researching this topic, and it shows in amount of information presented. Topics range from the bizarre (puffer fish?) to the classic (chocolate) to the dangerous (Spanish Fly). You can read through descriptive summaries of the substances and find stores that sell the most reputable items covered on Aphrodisiology.com. Also find lots of external sources that relate to these sexy stimulants. As interesting as the information is, I did find some dead links and out-of-date news stories which made me wonder how frequently the webmaster is updating this resource with new information. It's fascinating reading, but you should of course use your best judgment (and perhaps the advice of a doctor) when evaluating any medical treatments you might want to start. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-07-10
Cost: free Advertising Content: moderate
Category Listings: Sexuality Info

Jane reviewed these folks back in 2004, when they were known as WoodPeckersRoost.com. She said, "This website showcases some lovely, one-of-a-kind handmade wood phalluses. There are good photos, along with information on dimensions. The FAQ page has everything you might wish to know, including good contact info, shipping, returns, and so on. The first thing I wondered about was safety, but there is an entire page devoted to that with info on the sealing process, how to clean your toy after use and so on. They use only non-endangered, environmentally responsible wood sources as well. Ordering is online via PayPal, or by mail." Four years have passed, and this site is just getting better! The dildos are hand turned tulip wood, cherry, maple, bocote, lacewood, purpleheart, and walnut. The shapes are interesting and beautiful, and finished so that they shine with a certified food-safe finish that you can easily disinfect. All of the exotic woods are certified by the Forest Stewardship Council, and this company continues to use environmentally and socially sound practices. The product and company info continues to be extensive, and there is a 100% money back guarantee on their products. There is also some great stuff to read about dildo lore, current sex toy safety info in the news, and Jilda's life. They have just introduced a thicker toy, so girth queens should be a bit more satisfied. I really love these folks! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2009-06-26
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Sex Toys / Safer Sex Supplies, Sexuality Info

This is the website of One Taste Urban Retreat Center, a New York City and San Francisco based organization dedicated to the teaching of connectedness in all areas of life, including the intimate aspects. Get a taste of their teachings by listening to instructor podcasts and watching short video clips online. Memberships start at $20 a month; this gives you access to newsletters, courses and an online audio/visual library. Or check out their schedule of lectures, workshops and retreats. Need more of a connection? Follow them on Twitter, join their Facebook group or sign up for individual instruction. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-06-16
Cost: free site Advertising Content: moderate
Category Listings: Sexuality Info

This is a sassy and informative little site by Megan Andelloux, a certified sex educator. Megan offers workshops, menarche parties, sex coaching, and phone consultations for a fee. There is also a lot of free content, like a guide to purchasing sex toys and a video about how to tell if a woman is faking orgasm. There are lots of links to sex positive resources and free podcasts as well. I particularly liked the section of her site devoted to explaining how to become a sex educator yourself! Educational, entertaining, and practical! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2009-06-08
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Sexuality Info

NourishingArts.com provides training for those who want to improve their "sexual vitality." The instructor, Amara Charles, has spent two decades leading workshops around the world. Read her journal, which details her travel and spiritual practice. Also check out listings and descriptions for upcoming events. An online store offers books, CDs, downloadable mp3 lectures and course registration. Explore sister-site NourishingArts.com for even more information. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-06-03
Cost: free stie Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Sexuality Info

This site offers a wide variety of free erotic stories of varying qualities and lengths. They are grouped by categories like anal, fetish, and group sex. It is free to publish a story here, and people can leave comments and rate content. The site has clear writer's guidelines and legal info, but the contact info is form only. They do not accept stories that feature underage people, rape, abusive situations, graphic violence, unwilling participants, drugging, dangerous sexual acts, suicide, death, or animals. In addition to the story archive, they offer some sex advice and news. A pretty nice free story site, even if the content really didn't ring my bell. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2009-05-30
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: mainstream erotica, Safer Sex Info, Sexuality Info

This blog is a really interesting mix of things. The writer is a young woman who fearlessly discusses some really touchy subjects (including polycystic ovarian syndrome, infertility, miscarriage, and marriage issues). She also puts together helpful little video reviews of sex toys for several online retailers. The reviews allow you to see the toy in action (although not in use), which helps to point out issues with noise and such in a much more concrete way. I love that! In addition to all this, the writer is also a former web Domme. She has a small section of the site that she devotes to describing that experience, and I find it fascinating. It is an authentic and unusual mixture of subject matter, and I find that to be refreshing. None of us are one dimensional beings! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2009-05-29
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex, Sex Work Info, Sexuality Info

Ever want to compare notes with other folks about how you lost your virginity? My First Time: The Play does exactly that. Drawing on over 40,000 website submissions, this four-person production tells stories of the first time that are funny, heartbreaking and everything in between. You can purchase tickets online; some of the play's proceeds go to Scarleteen.com which provides sexuality information for teenagers. Also check out the store, performers' profiles and videos about the show. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-05-29
Cost: free site Advertising Content: moderate
Category Listings: Sexuality Info

Online magazines come and go like midsummer rainbows -- better catch 'em quick because they're gone in a flash. For some reason the ones which focus on sex seem especially ephemeral. I have a feeling that CarnalNation.com will buck this trend. Publisher and CEO John Pettitt has assembled quite a staff of talented (and pervy) writers, including Betty Dodson, Dr. Carol Queen, Dr. Marty Klein and bloggers Sinclair Sexsmith and Tess Danesi. CarnalNation features regular articles, columns, vlogs and podcasts. Also included are product reviews conducted by multiple singles or couples, which is great for summarizing diverse opinions all in once place. Coming soon will be regional listings of perv-friendly events. CarnalNation also accepts submissions; check out their FAQ for contributors. This is one to add to your feed readers, bookmarks and favorites, folks. Don't miss it! --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-03-14
Cost: free Advertising Content: moderate
Category Listings: Sexuality Info

The thing that keeps me from wishing too seriously that I possessed manly-bits is the fact that so many who do seem obsessed over size. Well, and the idea of getting kicked in the testicles. That doesn't sound like very much fun. ANYHOW. If you are the keeper of a penis and you worry about size, you can check out IncreasePenisGuide.com. Listed are dozens of potential ways to get just a little more length or girth. Links to purchase pills, patches and devices are included, along with reader-submitted reviews of these products. I found the information about size-increasing exercises the most informative, primarily because included are short WMV movies of a cute man doing the exercises. If I didn't know he was supposed to be stretching his junk, I would have thought that he was masturbating. Now a few words from someone who has been with penises large and small (er, that would be me). Size matters very little. I've been wonderfully satisfied by cocks large and small. I've been terribly disappointed by large cocks (though never small cocks, go figure). It just...doesn't...matter. So take the advice given in IncreasePenisGuide.com with a big grain of salt, and consider spending more time on developing a winning personality rather than adding fractions of an inch to your dick. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-01-20
Cost: free Advertising Content: very high
Category Listings: Sexuality Info

If you're interested in male chastity devices, check out MaleChastityNow.com. This one-man operation produces a handful of products to keep your favorite male sub under control. Put the pinch on his penis with an adjustable glans ring, or keep him locked up with a device which, when inserted into the urethra, will keep him erection-free for days at a time. All these items are hand-made; the creator will discuss options, sizing, and even special requests via email. Unfortunately, there's not much information provided on the site about shipping policies and rates, returns and the like. The lack of these details prevents me from giving the site the "quality" rating it otherwise deserves. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2008-12-02
Cost: free Advertising Content: nil
Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM Resources, Sexuality Info

Go-To Girl is a "no-nonsense, bossy sexpert." People send her questions like, "Here's my question: is it possible to transmit oral herpes to genitals and vice versa?" She then goes on to explain the answer, which in this case is definitely yes. She tends to reply in very frank, humorous, and informative ways. I think the tone is very female friendly, and it will appeal to anyone who reads things like GoAskAlice.com. A delightful, well written, and informative blog! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2008-10-16
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Blogs / Journals - Sex, Safer Sex Info, Sexuality Info

This site supposedly features a list of sexual records. It lists the longest, shortest, first, and such. Sometimes they list where they get the information, and sometimes they don't. I'm disinclined to believe in the accuracy of things that I cannot check on. So, before quoting any of this to your friends you may want to look it up. I didn't see anything shifty going on with the navigation or anything though. I guess I'm left with the feeling that this could have been interesting and informative, if a bit more effort was put into the documentation of claims. I have no idea how much of this information is original. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2008-10-10
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Sexuality Info