Sexuality Info

This blog discusses video chat sites and things of interest to those that enjoy chatting. It seems to me that a lot of it is written to sell you affiliate sites or services, but it still manages to discuss some things like privacy concerns and thoughts about the future of the industry. It is worth a look if you enjoy video chat, or even if you are wondering how to be a better cam worker (as there are a few articles on this topic as well). - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2012-01-24
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Sex Work Info, Sexuality Info

A sex toy store with the stated values of being sex positive, body positive, eco-sexual (environmentally friendlier), socially aware, into community activism, local-first in their purchasing habits, and actively celebrating all sexualities, genders, and forms of gender expression? Fuck yeah! You won't find irresponsible crap like desensitizing anal lubes or toxic chemicals here. They have a long list of what they WON'T stock, and that includes things like: phthalates, amines, ceteareth-6, mineral oil, parabens, petrochemicals, petrolatum, popylene glycol, synthetic fragrances, sulfates, and ureas. So, what do they stock? This Portland, Oregon based store has a lot of the old favorites such Hitachi, Tantus, Lelo, and Oh Mi Bod. They also have some really stunning stuff like the Jackboot paddle from Icon Brands (which is a paddle that has the sole of a boot on the impact surface), leather ropes that look like vines of roses, artistic and fun crops (such as skull and crossbones), and gorgeous plugs and paddles made of glass and decorative crystals! You'll also find interesting stuff like vulva puppets, dramatic makeup kits, edible jawbreaker ball gags, cyborg fleshlights, and more! They are fairly good about listing measurements and materials, including the measurement of the "active" part of the toy (as well as the "passive"). The gender expression section made me very happy, as it used respectful language and offered a wide range of practical products like dilators, breast forms, and binders. The DVD section has everything from hardcore smut to sexual documentaries, and lists work from companies that I personally have a very high opinion of in general. It is easy to work your way through the products, and you can even select categories such as "Directed by Women". The events section has ticket sales to educational workshops, and at the time I visited that included a participatory class on kissing. The toy care section is a very thorough and accurate guide to how to care for different types of toys, and I'd give it a Vamp's pick for this part alone. The site also uses an icon system to help give fast information about toys. This info includes whether the toy is made in the USA, made in the Pacific Northwest, vegan friendly, submersible in water, a winner at the Feminist Porn Awards, and more! I loved this quick visual system! Shipping, returns, contact, and privacy info is all easy to locate and clear. Hours of operation are listed, and so is an estimate for response time on emails. I loved the fact that you will not be added to unsolicited email newsletters or anything here, which is an unfortunate rarity. This store is still building an inventory and a style, but I am loving what I see so far. The mission style of this place is beautiful, and would be a good guide for this industry as well as a pretty good template for a better world in general. Excellent new store with a bright future, go buy something from them! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2012-01-18
Cost: Free Advertising Content: None
Category Listings: Amateur / Indie Video / DVD, BDSM Gear, Mainstream Video/DVD, Sex Toys / Safer Sex Supplies, Sexuality Info

Do you wonder what your astrological sign says about your sexuality? Would you like your sexual horoscope for the month? Lily Lick offers free horoscopes here, as well as a blog and a few very short essays. Her style is playful and sensual, and all of her writing has a distinctive voice. In addition to her free info, she links to retailers offering her ebook on sexuality and astrology. Saucy, cute, and a lot of fun! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2012-01-10
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex, eBooks, Sexuality Info, Uncategorizable

Jilly is a young woman from Belgium that writes a sexual blog with a very raw and tender voice. She self-describes as a virgin and talks about everything from fantasies to body issues, and comes across as someone who struggles and explores these things with a passion. Jilly is also an author of erotica/romance and has a couple of short fiction pieces about a character named Graham Conner (and the lovers he has had through the years), 8 stories inspired by the piano player/song writer Tim Minchin, and 27 short erotic tales. When I visited, the "Little Stories" section was unfortunately broken. So, I can't tell you the character of the pieces there. I'm sure the author will fix that soon, but right now I can only say that they are arranged by name and do not have blurbs or keywords. The rest of the erotica was unusual in that it focused on the relationships between characters while simultaneously avoiding most overt sexual expressions. I found that fascinating! There are links to photos, writing, and a tumblr project that she has been working on as well. Open, honest, and risky writing here. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2012-01-10
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - Sex, mainstream erotica, Sexuality Info

This is a blog by Master Michael Samadhi and his slave/wife Serafina. It is still relatively young, but I felt that the level of conversation and original pictures really warranted a review. The couple enjoys Tantra and BDSM, and they definitely communicate about their lives in a very real (and sometimes quite raw and vulnerable) way. They have BDSM and kink articles about things like Darlex and Hepatitis. Michael shares assignments that he has written for his partner. The review section is a breath of fresh air, since it deals with things like collars and EMT scissors. I didn't see any standard "sex toy" reviews, but loved reading over scene music recommendations and experiences with hemp rope suppliers. Here is a sample of the sort of thing you'll read from Michael: "If a slave is somebody who has been totally devalued, I'd not want to command them, I'd want to shelter and protect them until they felt valued and human. My style of domination isn't depersonalizing, in fact quite the opposite, it's expressed by continually pushing for growth, empowerment, and enlightenment within the rituals and devotions of submission." I don't know about you, but I find that pretty darn hot. A nice start to a thoughtful and interesting blog! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-12-22
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Couples, Blogs / Journals - Sex, D / S, Safer Sex Info, Sexuality Info, Tantra

This is a very quick and simple guide to swinging. It was put out by the folks at dirty-david.com, and it has some of the Golden Rules (as well as basic terminology information). I highly recommend that you get information about STIs elsewhere, but it is a pretty nice primer for the novice. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-12-13
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Sexuality Info

Bebe St. Croix self-describes as a "sex coach" and offers advice about sex to those that write to her. This blog style advice/erotica site features articles on how women may be more sexy to men, how to give oral sex to a man, why men like mail order brides, and such. There are also a few pieces of erotic fiction about a character named "Victoria". The stories are of medium length and fit well within the idea of mainstream erotica. They are definitely worth a read! The advice and sex coaching services? Well, there is no information given about Ms. St. Croix's education or background as a coach. So, I find the whole idea highly suspect. The advice doled out on the site is often the propagation of hegemonic heterosexual roles as often spoon fed to us in western media. Wear the highest heels? Grow your hair long? Be submissive? Remember to swallow? All men want oral sex? This advice is sometimes dangerous (as in the case of promoting unsafe sexual practices), and is at best not particularly educational. Please understand that all of these types of sexual expression and preference are valid to think/feel/pursue in consensual relationships, but promoting them as educational materials distributed by a professional is not acceptable. An example? Even a paraprofessional counselor should be able to understand what is problematic about telling people that an intrinsic part of a person's gender identity is the acceptance of a certain type of sexual act. Our gender is not defined by the sex we must accept or enjoy. Period. So, I recommend this site to story hunters, but not so much for information seekers. - Vamp » More Info!

Date Reviewed: 2011-12-07
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, mainstream erotica, Sexuality Info

Sadey Quinn is submissive to her Master, and also an author. This blog is a collection of personal entries about her life with her partner, scene reports, musings about writing, and erotic fiction. She has recently finished her first book of BDSM erotic fiction, and she has links to places where it may be purchased online. There is also an excerpt from the book on her site. A well designed and enjoyable blog! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-11-02
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: alternative / sci-fi erotica, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Books / Zines, D / S, eBooks, Sado-masochism (S/M), Sexuality Info, Spanking

This site is still pretty young, but it looks promising! It is a webzine written by Katie, who is a self-described queer woman from the UK. She says that she started the site out of, "...[A] desire for more blogs based in the UK, discussing sexual politics and reviewing toys and events for 'grown-ups' which can be found on our fair isles, such that we don’t need to sell our limbs to pay for the shipping costs or air fares." The site discusses politics, gender, identity issues (including body image), and kink. There is a nifty DIY (do it yourself) kink area that explains how to make your own rubber flogger from bicycle inner tubes, and I'll enjoy seeing more projects added here in the future. There is also a review section that currently has a couple of toy, event, and movie reviews. I hope this place really picks up steam, as it looks like it could be really good with just a bit more content! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-10-26
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Other Web Review sites, Sexuality Info, webzines

The Sexperience website (from the Sex Education Show on Channel 4 in the UK) is a fabulous educational site based on shared personal experiences! You can look at the interactive Sexperience 1000 survey, which is the data from 1000 UK citizens who were asked about their sexual experiences and health. The graphics used to explain the data are brilliant, and allow for you to visually sort by things like gender or age. You can also decide to follow a specific responder, looking at all of their answers individually. The rest of the site has videos on topics such as orgasm, STIs, and pregnancy. The content is fairly pansexual, so if you search for videos about body confidence you'll get a mixture of gay and heterosexual responses. An excellent resource for folks wanting to hear personal stories about sexuality! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-09-14
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Safer Sex Info, Sexuality Info, Streaming Video, Uncategorizable

This phone sex site is different, in fact it is so different that the sincerity and openness is bound to shock you. I find it sexy as hell! Galiana uses her own pictures, and has a blog that sounds 100% authentic. She talks about her real life, real turn-ons, and real turn-offs. The site is a very personal act of sharing, and I know that while I read it I felt like I got to know her a bit. In addition to phone sex (rates and such available on Niteflirt rather than on this site), she offers a variety of media for sale. When I visited she had 13 videos, 36 photo sets, and 6 mp3s. All of them have a description and run time listed. All of them are sold through Niteflirt. I especially recommend this curvy temptress to anyone with a robot or Fembot fetish, as she has a sample of her roleplay voice on the site and it is beyond delicious. I know this is a difficult fetish to find skilled partners for, and she has this one down (and even has live action videos). Genuine, creative, sensual, and very exciting. I highly recommend this one! Love, love, love! - Vamp » More Info!

Date Reviewed: 2011-09-14
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Amateur / Indie Video / DVD, Audio, Blogs / Journals - Sex, Female Domination, Fetish Phonesex, Phonesex, Sex Work Info, Sexuality Info

Skin Two started out in a cellar in Soho, London in 1983. It has grown through the years to become a legend of fetish fashion and style, and the organizer of one of the most famous fetish events in the world the "Skin Two Rubber Ball Weekend". This site is the online version of their magazine, and offers lots of free (fiction and nonfiction) writing as well as tons of art. There is also a forum that allows you to network with other readers and discuss things like clubs and BDSM. Some famous bloggers such as Patrick Califia can also be found here. There are plenty of links to places that sell their clothing line, movies, and give info about upcoming events as well. A lot of free content from a legend in the business! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-09-13
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, alternative / sci-fi erotica, BDSM Art, BDSM Fiction, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - Sex, Books / Zines, Latex / PVC / Rubber, Sexuality Info

I'll be upfront with you. I've never met Kitty Stryker, but I have a bit of a crush on her based upon her writing. She is really talented, and pretty darn gutsy. She describes herself as a, "Domme and escort, along with being a Burner, a queer, and a bookworm." Her blog has been the center of a lot of attention lately, as she wrote a post called "I Never Called it Rape: Addressing Abuse in BDSM Communities." This was a phenomenal post and really has inspired a whole movement of discussing consent and rape culture within BDSM. It is far from all she has to offer, however. I think posts like "Anal-Eze? Please, god, no." should be required reading for anyone that wants to try anal play. Her blog has some standard stuff like reviews as well, but she actually demonstrates a lot of the toys by using them in original hardcore photographs. A rich blog that is body positive, insightful, feminist, and courageous. I'm totally in love with this place, and it has an archive that stretches back to 2008! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-09-12
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - Sex, Female Bondage, Female Domination, Sado-masochism (S/M), Sex Positive Goddesses, Sex Work Info, Sexuality Info

One of my favorite sex toy stores is Babeland, so I was delighted to discover that a bunch of the mothers who work for the infamously sex positive and women-friendly boutique had gotten together to start a blog about love, sex, and parenting. There are about ten writers here at the moment, and you can search the entries by listed topics. The blog also covers in store events that are relevant to pregnant women (such as classes on sex during and after pregnancy). The blog is fairly new, but there is already quite a bit here. The owners of Babeland (Rachel Venning and Claire Cavanah) are both contributing authors. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-09-01
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Blogs / Journals - Sex, Safer Sex Info, Sexuality Info

Are you curious about swinging? Are you part of a couple that swings, and you've hit a snag? Do you wish you could talk to a couple of experienced swingers about it? Great! This site is a free advice and opinion blog written by Miranda and Aarron, a couple with a lot of experience that they'd love to share with others. The content is nicely organized, and there is a search function. These folks don't claim to be medical or psychological experts, but they are a couple who have navigated swinging together and found solutions to issues. I found the direct and honest answers here very refreshing, and enjoyed reading things from both of their perspectives. Well done! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-08-10
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Blogs / Journals - Couples, Sexuality Info

Respectful, loving, joyful, smart, charming, and sexy! This site is still extremely young, but I love the direction that it is going. I always think that the best porn is the stuff that I watch and then wish that I could participate in, and this site definitely struck me that way. The two stars are Maggie and Ned Mayhem, which you may have heard of before. Maggie self-identifies as a queer kinky switch that has worked with really cool folks like Two Knotty Boys and Kink.com. She has also been involved in a lot of sex positive work, such as HIV testing and counseling. Ned has worked with folks like Kink.com as well, and runs an an open source science project measuring physiological responses to arousal and orgasm. He is also a PhD candidate in experimental physics at UC Berkeley. This site is free to read and look over, and it acts as a transparent preview for the paid content. You can register here for free, and then purchase individual movies or photo sets (which typically run around $3). You can also decided to be a big spender (the better deal), and get the whole shebang for $8/month. At the moment, if you pay for all the content available there is a small handful of streaming and downloadable (mp4) movies that run about ten minutes long. There is also a picture gallery of Maggie that is available in high resolution and zipped. Mixed in with their own content, they do have blog entries about work that they are doing with other sites (most of which will allow you to purchase their particular movie or gallery separately). I wasn't totally wild about it being mixed in with their other content, but it was plainly labeled and nice to see where I could find more content with these stars if I wanted. In addition to the homemade porn showing things like strap-on sex and Ned using a vibrator on his cock while getting a handjob from Maggie, you'll also find the ultra cool Encyclopedia Mayhem. It includes tutorials on things like how to be a cis-gendered woman and pee standing up and how to construct a hitachi wand rope harness. There are also interviews, stories, behind the scenes info, event reports, and even really personal home video of vacations. I'm incredibly excited about this section of their site, because I felt that it was a bit like getting to know them. If you are looking for toy reviews that include demonstrations, then this site may do that soon. At the moment they only have one real review, but it is graphic and wonderful. There is a live show area that broadcasts using skinvideo cams, and they apparently announce live shows via twitter. There is no schedule posted. There are links to a forum (that is currently too new to have much content), and a free tumblr blog of photos and movies. Ned and Maggie say that they want to make, "...[P]orn that could get people off without perpetuating racism or homophobia – porn that shows the world that making sexy videos is not synonymous with exploitation." I think that they are managing that, and I can't wait to see what this place looks like in a year! An exciting new project, and well worth the time to check out. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-08-04
Cost: See Above Advertising Content: Medium (see above)
Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM / Fetish Video, Blogs / Journals - Couples, D / S, Downloadable Video, Female Bondage, Female Domination, Sex Positive Goddesses, Sexuality Info, Streaming Video

The fact that we haven't posted this review sooner is a testament to the size of the Jane's Guide queue. Sarah Sloane is one of the east coast's top BDSM, Sexuality, and Relationship educators. She has taught hundreds of classes, writes a "Dear Sarah" column, blogs for MyPleasure, is featured in SexIs Magazine, and is the Contributing Editor for Tristan Taormino's newsletter The Double T. This site is primarily a personal blog, but it also lists the classes that she currently teaches (along with a description of what to expect from each of them). There are also links to media interviews, podcasts, and some of her free online writing such as "10 Things You Didn't Know About the Prostate." If you aren't already familiar with Sarah, this is a great crash course. I think you'll particularly appreciate her materials if you are interested in polyamory and BDSM. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-08-02
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - Sex, D / S, Sado-masochism (S/M), Sex Positive Goddesses, Sexuality Info

This is a great little site for those interested in swinging, polyamory, open relationships, and such. There is a library of articles such as "Poly Living- Children and Living Arrangements for the Polyamorous" and "Nervous Newbies- Playing with Brand New Swingers." There is also a fair share of humor, advice, and fiction. One of the things that really makes this place shine, however, is the podcast. There are currently around 30 episodes available on various topics, and they are very well done. When I visited, I listened in on an interview with Tristan Taormino that was pretty nifty! There is a very small (and honest) review section, and a list of Kasidie's swinger parties as well. I liked the energy here, which seemed to really be a lot about fun (and not so much about politics). Definitely recommended, and 100% free! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-08-02
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, Internet Radio Podcasts, Other Web Review sites, Sexuality Info

If you are looking for a pretty casual and anonymous place in cyberspace to kick back and have conversations about sexuality, then this might be a good one to try. It is also a nifty place to read and share original erotic stories. The host of the site is "Courtney", a genuinely charming and attractive woman that asks new questions in a video each week (and participates in discussions). All of the content is organized in forums. The forums cover romance and love, fantasy, forbidden, bloopers, toys, questions, and tips. This is not a place run by (or overflowing with) experts. It is simply a place to do an anonymous sexy meet and greet with others and share opinions and experiences. As the content is user generated and driven, you'll find the signal to noise ratio varies. It is off to a promising start though, and it appears quite active! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-08-02
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: mainstream erotica, Sexuality Info

This is a review site for toys, and it is written by a heterosexual man. He tends to write very enthusiastic and lengthy reviews, so you get a lot of details about his personal experience with the toy. I liked that, since I don't see enough reviews from men that discuss prostate toys and masturbation sleeves. He seems to like to write about the toys that he personally loves, but he does post reviews that discuss toys he is less fond of as well. There is a disclosure on the site, and there are frequent giveaways. A cool little review site from a het male perspective. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-07-28
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Other Web Review sites, Sexuality Info