Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant

This is a blog by Master Michael Samadhi and his slave/wife Serafina. It is still relatively young, but I felt that the level of conversation and original pictures really warranted a review. The couple enjoys Tantra and BDSM, and they definitely communicate about their lives in a very real (and sometimes quite raw and vulnerable) way. They have BDSM and kink articles about things like Darlex and Hepatitis. Michael shares assignments that he has written for his partner. The review section is a breath of fresh air, since it deals with things like collars and EMT scissors. I didn't see any standard "sex toy" reviews, but loved reading over scene music recommendations and experiences with hemp rope suppliers. Here is a sample of the sort of thing you'll read from Michael: "If a slave is somebody who has been totally devalued, I'd not want to command them, I'd want to shelter and protect them until they felt valued and human. My style of domination isn't depersonalizing, in fact quite the opposite, it's expressed by continually pushing for growth, empowerment, and enlightenment within the rituals and devotions of submission." I don't know about you, but I find that pretty darn hot. A nice start to a thoughtful and interesting blog! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-12-22
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Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Couples, Blogs / Journals - Sex, D / S, Safer Sex Info, Sexuality Info, Tantra

Robert is a happily married man that loves dominating his partner and sharing his wife with other men. This blog explores those feelings and fantasies, as well as many others. He also shares original erotica and reviews sex toys from the perspective of a man using the toys as part of a partnered experience. A well written and enjoyable blog! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-10-31
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: alternative / sci-fi erotica, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, mainstream erotica

I'll be upfront with you. I've never met Kitty Stryker, but I have a bit of a crush on her based upon her writing. She is really talented, and pretty darn gutsy. She describes herself as a, "Domme and escort, along with being a Burner, a queer, and a bookworm." Her blog has been the center of a lot of attention lately, as she wrote a post called "I Never Called it Rape: Addressing Abuse in BDSM Communities." This was a phenomenal post and really has inspired a whole movement of discussing consent and rape culture within BDSM. It is far from all she has to offer, however. I think posts like "Anal-Eze? Please, god, no." should be required reading for anyone that wants to try anal play. Her blog has some standard stuff like reviews as well, but she actually demonstrates a lot of the toys by using them in original hardcore photographs. A rich blog that is body positive, insightful, feminist, and courageous. I'm totally in love with this place, and it has an archive that stretches back to 2008! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-09-12
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - Sex, Female Bondage, Female Domination, Sado-masochism (S/M), Sex Positive Goddesses, Sex Work Info, Sexuality Info

This blog is positively delightful, and a really interesting read! Here is a description of what they are attempting (and in my opinion succeeding) to build: "Gabe and Elizabeth want to create a sex documentary collection, an authentic representation of the complex sexuality of two unique people in relationship. You may find that our offerings differ from commercial porn in a number of ways. We look to document our own desires and actions, trusting that offering up our real life together will turn others on, and will provide a contrast to the commercialization of sex in our culture. We are body-positive — eager to celebrate the beauty in all bodies. We value communication, honesty, education and fun." I really enjoyed them, because they seem to be full of play and reverence when they discuss each other. Their writing is thought provoking, and manages to be original in a sea of rather similar "sex-positive" voices. They also produce original audio, video, and images that they share at no cost. A site full of love and sensuality! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-07-18
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Couples, Blogs / Journals - Sex

I absolutely love this story blog! Daisy Danger is a collection of stories that are from the writer's past. She does change these events a bit, however, and sprinkles in fiction (as well as a healthy dose of anonymity). Her writing style is very raw and honest. I really liked that! The collection of posts is sold as an ebook in pdf format, and can be purchased from several online stores. She also has an audio podcast of some of the entries, and she links to where they may be heard. There is an underlying humor here that I particularly appreciated, although that may simply be my own experience. I was beyond amused when reading entries like "I'm done with talk. I want action." I think that if you are prone to sexual tomfoolery, you may find yourself identifying with these scenarios and laughing a bit too. Incredibly sexy and well written. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-07-13
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Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Sex

This blog is written by Jonathan "Wyrd" Brazell, a lifestyle dominant and practitioner of Gor-inspired total power exchange. His writing makes it very clear that he is drawn to the concepts of integrity, honor, and respect. You'll find several years worth of writing here, as well as a library of downloadable pdf documents (BDSM safety, pervertables, playing with disabilities, slave positions, art and history of erotic bondage, and bondage 101). He also offers a couple of free non-adult programs that he designed, and I can't say that I've evaluated those for safety. So, take normal precautions. A passionate, complex, and intelligent blog. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-03-23
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Category Listings: Advice / Education, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant

The human mind is a rich and imaginative instrument, and it always warms me to see it used to explore sexuality and sensuality. This blog definitely does that through a mixture of roleplay, storytelling, and experimentation. The writer is a bit of a mystery, but his character is named Adam Zadeh. Adam exists on the online game Second Life, where he is part of a Gorean roleplay experience. For those unfamiliar with the alternative science fiction/erotica world of Gor, it was the creation of an author named John Norman back in the late 60's. The books dealt with a certain life philosophy, and part of that involved male dominance and female submission. Adam writes about his experiences in the online Gor, and also discusses what it means to him to engage in the Gorean lifestyle in his flesh life. He has been keeping this journal since 2008, and he includes illustrations of his character in the game. I think you will enjoy this journal if you would love to get a look at a very intricate emotional and mental exploration of a fantasy, and the goal of making it more of a reality. An interesting read! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-03-10
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: alternative / sci-fi erotica, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant

Fulani and Velvet Tripp are a maledom/femsub couple that both write erotica. I would not normally list a blog that is this new, but it also includes a lot of free stories by Fulani (as well as links to his work available through other sites). In addition to the fiction, they have a couple of really interesting and informative original articles. A nice author site that has the definite possibility of growing into a really lovely BDSM resource. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-01-24
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: BDSM Fiction, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Couples, D / S, Sado-masochism (S/M)

I had a lot of fun with this blog! Kitty is a self described sex worker that discusses gender, work, politics, BDSM, and a lot more. She recently has discovered ageplay, and has posted very honestly about it. Here is a sample of her writing, "So my first ageplay party did not go very well. Honestly, I had a shitty time. I felt resentful of the parental role, cranky to be in little girl space without someone to take care of me, bored, jealous of the boy being changed and having a good time when I wasn't... it was just kind of awful." Personally, I really like the fact that she doesn't paint everything with sunshine and rainbows. Kitty shares original pictures, and her writing is thoughtful and interesting. Sexy, bright, and introspective. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2011-01-03
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Ageplay, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Sex

Mistress T has put together a site that is perfectly transgressive, and it daringly pushes the edges of dark fantasy. A list of her most common themes include cuckolding, female domination, foot/body/goddess worship, giantess fantasy, humiliation/degradation, masturbation instruction, mommy fetish, race-related fetish, toilet training (golden showers), shrinking, farting, vore, vintage gloves, hypnosis and biting. Whew, quite a list! This site is primarily about videos, and it has around 535 that mix and match themes mentioned above. There are also around 498 (comparably tame), but beautiful glamor and fetish images here. I was particularly impressed with the creative and technically sophisticated giantess fetish videos that included things like claymation, giant rampages through cities, and shrunken men. I was positively delighted by that originality! I think that the race-related fetish content is the most likely to throw readers, so here is a brief explanation of it. Some folks get very excited with the fantasy (not the reality) of racism, and it is a fairly controversial turn on even within the fetish community. These videos were created with an African American or Asian male audience in mind. These things are hot because they are so very wrong, scary, and emotionally charged (which are the same qualities that can make ageplay or rape fantasy so delicious for some). The preview is absolutely accurate and transparent about the content of the site, so you can skim through the videos and pictures before deciding if this place is for you. You can also go over to her clips4sale store and order a taste test of her work. If you choose to subscribe, there are two levels of membership to her website. The first is a Standard membership for $29.95/month recurring at $19.95. That membership entitles you to 5 downloads a day, and you can't stream any of the movies. You will get access to the photo area, blog, voting, and forums. The Premium membership is $49.00/month recurring, and it gives you everything that the Standard membership does as well as unlimited streaming and downloading. There is a third membership option that is a Standard membership that is purchased in a three month block and doesn't recur as well. It is interesting to note that unlike many sites, there are options for personal interaction with the model. She is available through Niteflirt and mentions that she might also welcome private sessions, distance training, or inclusion of some site members in movies. The site is pricey, original, and daring. I think that if you have a real yearning for original roleplay and taboo fantasy, you'll find some really scrumptious stuff over here. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2010-11-04
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Category Listings: Ageplay, BDSM / Fetish Video, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Downloadable Video, Enemas / Watersports, Female Domination, Foot Fetish, Streaming Video

This is the blog of a dominant male that posts journal entries, correspondence with his long distance partner, and fiction. Here is an example of his writing that I particularly enjoyed: "During my days of inexperience, I imagined a girl meeting me at her door and, upon my entrance, immediately sinking to her knees and diligently kissing my imaginary boots, until I finally give her my first commands, whatever they might be. The difference with reality is the intensity of the feelings that surface in the presence of human flesh. Intense emotions that can never be imagined or predicted, arousal that even the most vivid dream would miss entirely." An interesting read, although I see that he has been blogging a bit less often recently. There are still quite a few stories here. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2010-11-01
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant

Ms. Tara Sterling is a Professional Dominatrix from the San Francisco Bay Area, and she has been keeping this blog for the last three years. She writes about travel, play, professional safety concerns, and more. Here is a sample of her writing: "I'm very particular about the way I want my feet handled, so for all of you foot fetishists who are interested in worshiping in the future listen up! Shoes play into my fetish experience greatly, but bare feet are also important though to me a completely different thing some times. I love having my toes sucked, but hate teeth rubbing against them when the sucking is happening. Not only is it an irritating sensation it also can chip my nail polish." An interesting look into the world of professional domination. - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2010-10-29
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Female Domination, Sex Work Info

This blog is written by "Deity", a male dominant. He writes about BDSM play with his partner, a submissive woman that he loves to transform into a creature that he utterly controls and shapes. There are definitely some very hot entries on this site, and there are also quite a few contemplative ones. I particularly enjoyed it when Deity examined his personal relationship with the concept of masculinity, kink labels, and media portrayals of SM. It was also fascinating when he went into his feelings about being a fetishist. Here is an example of his thoughts: "The longer i live my life in this so-called realm of SM, the more i find myself turning away from prescriptive words such as "Dominant" and "submissive". They don't fit the reality of my experience. Because, as someone who deals with myriad fetishes, even though my girl goes and gets her nails done every two weeks exactly as i require (a "Dominant" decision), their appearance in my day interrupts whatever it was i happened to be doing at the time (an act of submission, if i ever saw one). They pester me. They demand my attention. And once they get it, all i can do is sit transfixed, succumbing to the overflowing desire to rapidly reach an orgasm." A very interesting read! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2010-09-28
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, D / S, Sado-masochism (S/M)

"I enjoy Domination," boldly proclaims Mistress Lilyana on the front page of her blog. Her writings provide many, many examples to back up that assertion. She writes of experiences with her current partners as well as encounters with those from various dating sites. I really enjoyed her straightforward, no-bullshit tone and her ability to make BDSM practices understandable even to a vanilla gal such as myself. I was, however, continually distracted by the fact that Mistress Lilyana hyperlinks to the biographical page of her partners every bleedin' time one is mentioned. One link per partner per entry would have done me just fine, Mistress; give your readers some credit for having memories longer than goldfish. Can't get enough? Find Mistress Lilyana on Twitter, FetLife, CollarMe and the Literotica forums. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2010-03-30
Cost: free Advertising Content: low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant

Take a moment and imagine a leather Facebook or Myspace, and then imagine it being run by and for kinky folks. That is exactly what Fetlife is! It is the coolest new community site out there for pervs, and it is absolutely 100% free. I had been hearing the buzz about this new spot on the web from a few of my lifestyle friends, and I finally decided to go set up an account and take a look myself. Many years ago I had been on other sites that promised community and allowed free communication, but since those sites have sold to other companies their soul has left the building and communication costs money. It is also communication that is no longer under the nurturing ownership of perverts with a personal interest in our tribe. I'd lost interest, and so had most of my friends. I was hoping that this site could be some of what I was missing on the old ones. Wow, I wasn't disappointed! I immediately ran into some of my old friends, and then ran off to recruit new ones. It is easy to sign up. Once you have, then you set up a profile. You can add pics to it, and you'll never run into that "you have to have such and such membership" to view pics or show them to others. There are social groups here with ongoing forum conversations, so you can sign up for topics that interest you (or create your own groups). There is a mail system that acts like a personal bulletin board for private conversations, so you don't lose track of what has been said to anyone. You can post writing, see what your friends are doing, and a lot more. A lot of talented pervs are posting writing and engaging in conversation here. I've met a lot of new friends. There is a small amount of advertising, but it is done really tastefully and never gets in the way. You can write to the folks that run the site, and they will actually write you back. I've been in love with this place and raving about it for the last several weeks. This is one of the few sites that didn't ask for review. I sought out the owner and asked him if I could post one. It is that good. I feel like I'm giving you guys an early Christmas gift. Go check it out! This is the next big kinky community site! They are going to be huge, and they will stay huge as long as they keep the spirit that they have now. - Vamp » More Info!

Date Reviewed: 2009-11-05
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Advice / Education, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Couples, Blogs / Journals - Sex, GBLT Resources, Personal Ads, Sexuality Info, Uncategorizable

Mystress Lady Evyl is a Montreal-based blogger and Domme who offers a multitude of services through her website. First read thoughts on sex work in her blog. Next, move on to peruse her offered services, rates and requirement for her subs. Also check out links to fetish shopping sites, Mystress Lady Evyl's own sex toy store and a small but attractive gallery of personal photos. She participates in a unique form of marking called "cell popping;" check out her detailed description of the process, including fascinating photos. Some of the site is written in French, which was difficult for this non-French speaking girl to follow. An easy-to-find block quote or italicized paragraph might be a better way of handling translated text on a blog that's mostly written in English. --aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-06-18
Cost: free Advertising Content: high
Category Listings: BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Female Bondage

Vamp first reviewed this site six years ago, and since then it's only gotten better. This has to be one of the coolest BDSM toy shops I've visited in awhile! Madame Giggles sells a huge assortment of floggers, stingers and her absolutely unique "Killer Bunnies." Instead of dull turn-key operations with purchased graphics and boring cookie-cutter toys, Madame Giggles creates all of her own products and images. Each toy has a precise description, including measurements and weights. The toys come with a warranty, and all customer service information is spelled out in detail. In fact, Madame Giggles manages to make you WANT to read all that info because she is funny and smart -- and it shows. Custom work is available. Shipping is currently through USPS Priority mail. Rates seem quite reasonable; spend over $100 and shipping is free. Aside from the toys, there is a personal side to this website. Madame Giggles talks a bit about herself, how to brand skin, and her thoughts on dating and relationship. It is very well worth the read. I found myself wanting to hang out with Madame Giggles after reading this. Other sex toy retailers need to take lessons from Madame Giggles on how to make their sites personally appealing. --Vamp and aag

Date Reviewed: 2009-06-16
Cost: free Advertising Content: none
Category Listings: BDSM Gear, BDSM Resources, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant

You know you're in for a witty treat of a writer when there is a line that involves the term "Jacks-off Pollock." It only gets better from there. Mollena is the Perverted Negress, and her blog is a delightful mix of news, the occasional review of a sex toy/sexuality item, pictures of her lovely self, and thoughts about sex, BDSM, and more. Also on her site are a great blogroll, a biography, an attention whoring alert level key, and a way to contact her. Updated almost daily, this site seems to be filled with much amusement, deep thoughts, wit, and sexy pictures; everything you'd want and expect from a kinky sex blog. - EssinEm

Date Reviewed: 2009-01-29
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Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive

This blog is written by a switchy married woman who is actively and creatively exploring her sexuality. These explorations include kink, and she is not shy about sharing both her actual experiences and her fantasies. There are quite a few images throughout the blog, some of which show things like rope bondage and leather clothing. Her writing is frank and honest, "When you are in love with another man, you share some of your fantasies, keeping others secret, and you never, ever call out the other man's name during sex." This quote gets even better when you read the post that this is a part of, since she decided to break the rules and talk about the other partner while in bed with her husband. That brings me to another great thing about this blog, it links to her husband's writing! So, it is possible to get to know the couple separately through their unique perspectives. In addition to this, you'll find a lot of sex toy and product reviews in this blog. I really thought that was great! A helpful, entertaining, and thought provoking read! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2008-11-06
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, Blogs / Journals - BDSM Submissive, Blogs / Journals - Sex

What a great blog! I often seem to read material by female submissives, but it is rare to find a genuine blog by a lifestyle dominant. So, it was with great interest that I devoured the offerings of Lady Lubyanka. She is a 41 year old musician who is bisexual, poly, Jewish, and funny as all get out. She discusses her thoughts about everything from caning to corsets, and really seems to have a knack for reviewing products. She also has a great informational section that explains prostate milking. All of her writing has a very intellectual and whimsical tone, and it is great to feel both entertained and informed. An example of a product review is her comment about a specific dildo she had purchased for her harness, "...[E]ven the most olfactorily oblivious person would be able to taste the airborne rubber fumes from this cock, just from breathing in the same room as it. The smell was more insistent and persistent than door-to-door religion pushers." Fun, informative, charming, and sexy! - Vamp

Date Reviewed: 2008-10-08
Cost: Free Advertising Content: Low
Category Listings: Blogs / Journals - BDSM Dominant, D / S, Female Domination, Sexuality Info